Another pamphlet designed for distribution to school children.
Women Who Love Other Women
Why must women fall in love with men? Most men are selfish, sexist, and abusive. Good men are hard to find. Maybe we should fall in love with women. Women won’t hate you for being a woman; women are much less likely to verbally and sexually abuse you; women won’t impregnate you against your will. Maybe you have attractions to female friends or celebrities but you never realized you could love another woman. Society tries to make women fall in love with men because men want to use women for sex. Society also wants to keep women apart from each other so women can’t break or escape from male control. So why don’t we try something new?
Myths, facts, and questions:
Lesbians are ugly and masculine.
Not all lesbians are masculine. Many are very “feminine” (what our society calls “feminine”). Some lesbian relationships consist of feminine partners, some consist of masculine partners, and some couples have a mannish partner and a feminine partner. Everyone is different.
Lesbians are always angry because they don’t know how wonderful it is to have sex with men.
A lesbian is a woman who is attracted to women, not attracted to men. Having sex with men would not be wonderful for her. Not all lesbians are angry. Some are very happy. They are all individuals like everyone else. The small amount of lesbian and gay people who are often angry are angry because they are abused by prejudiced heterosexual people.
Accepting lesbians into society will drastically change normal relationship structures.
Yes. That’s our intention. We want change. The world is horrible right now. Women are the only demographic group in the world who willingly live with the group who oppresses them- men. Most men in the world are dangerous and selfish. Society forces woman to marry a man and live apart from her family and other women. This does great harm to women. The marriage structure (one man, one woman, living alone in a house) makes it easier for husbands to abuse women and children without women’s families stopping them. For women in poor countries, lesbianism is freedom. Heterosexuality means being forced into sexual slavery to a husband and doing exhausting house or field work. Instead of living with men, women should live in all-female groups with some good men (the minority of men). Most men should live on the outside of this society. This is how elephants and lions live, so it is not unnatural. The good men should be the fathers and the large amout of bad men (rapists, serial killers, woman-abusers, misogynists) will go extinct. Monogamy will no longer be necessary, but people will be free to choose it. Since evil men will be extinct, men will not use women for sex. They will only have sex with someone because of love. Our current one-man/one-woman marriage policy is evil. There are very few good men, and women are not able to share them- women have to accept horrible or abusive men.
How will people have children?
Women will have sex with men to get children, and sometimes for pleasure, but lesbianism will be more common than it is today. Women, especially mothers, should be the focus of society, and men/other women should help them. Children should be taught by the entire community, not inside a family, in which the mother has to do all the work. Women will not have to associate with a man only because he is the father of her child. When women marry men and live inside a heterosexual family, they work inside the home and don’t get paid, but men get paid to work outside the home. Women should not have to be in a relationship with a man just because he is th father of her child. Women should have relationships with other women and raise children together, and heterosexuality will be less common. Men who enjoy women’s sexual organs instead of their personality will not be allowed to have sex with women.
Lesbianism and separating women from men is a very new and different idea.
This is not true. Thousands of years ago, before men began hating women, and before they invented patriarchy, women were the leaders of society. Society loved and respected men, but men were not superior to women and men were not at the center of society.
Lesbians must use dildos or other penis-shaped objects to have sex.
Not all lesbians enjoy penetration and penis shaped objects. The assumtion that all lesbians need penises or penis-shaped objects to be satisfied is offensive. Not all women need men to be happy. Some lesbians don’t like to be penetrated. It’s a personal preference. “Sex” doesn’t necessarily mean putting a penis in a vagina. Sex can also include oral sex, touching the clitoris, or stimulating the nipples. A person does not need to penetrate or be penetrated to say they have had sex. It is also offensive to suggest women have no external genitalia. Women have clitorises, labia, and a pubic mound, and sometimes they can be used for penetration, if the partners enjoy penetration. It is not true that all men have big penises and that all women have small clitorises/labia. Not all penises are bigger than women’s clitorises and labia. Some penises are big, and some are small. Some clitorises and labia are big, some are small. Size has nothing to do with male or female. Male and female were created for reproduction, and size has nothing to do with sperm and eggs.
Should I become a lesbian?
You can do whatever you want. It is good to open up your options. It is difficult for most people to change their sexuality, but it can be worth the difficulty, since most men are not suitable for a romantic relationship. If you cannot become a lesbian, you do not need to force yourself. If you get in a relationship with a man, make sure he is gentle and good.
Am I a lesbian?
Perhaps. You may have attractions to female friends, classmates, people you work with, actresses, or even cartoon characters. You might be completely uninterested in men or dislike them.
What are the consequences of becoming a lesbian or telling people I’m one?
It depends on your society’s level amount of tolerance for homosexuality. Often, in the Western hemisphere, you will be respected. Unfortunately, lesbians are treated poorly by some people, especially conservative religious people, and people who support patriarchy. If you think you will be harmed, keep your feelings to yourself, but don’t try to change who you are, because you will end up miserable. Try to find internet groups or organizations who will accept you.
Where can I get help if I decide to come out as a lesbian or become one?
The USA national organization for adult homosexuals is: 1-888-843-4564, and the youth group is 1-800-246-7743. Both numbers cost no money to dial. If you don’t want your parents or siblings to know you called the organization, you can use your cell phone or email them on the computer.
Are societies happier if they accept lesbians and if they change marriage structures that are unjust?
Yes. In a lesbian relationship, there is no male influence, therefore patriarchy is weakened by every lesbian relationship. Men who are evil will have no opportunity to teach their sons to be evil. There are 7 billion people in the world and it is overcrowded. There are not enough recources for everyone. Lesbians are more likely to adopt children than to give birth. The other option for women is to marry men and have their wombs regulated like farm animals’ wombs. (Societies never regulate men’s reproductive organs).
Is it impossible to change your sexuality?
For some people it is impossible. For others, it is not. Most people cannot lose a sexual attraction once they have it, but most people can acquire an additional attraction if they try. It is harder to ignore an attraction you already have than to acquire a new one. Sometimes heterosexual men tell women heterosexuality is natural and that it is impossible to change because they want to trick lesbians into having sex with them. “It’s natural. Come into my bed!”
Is sexuality caused by genetics or DNA or nature or some similar thing?
No. Attractions are abstract things and genetics is a physical thing. Physical things cannot cause abstract things. Sexual urges might be caused by physical processes, but who you are attracted to is caused by what is inside in your mind. Sometimes, the mind cannot be changed. Sometimes, it can.
Why does society notice lesbians less than it notices gay men?
Most societies don’t respect women and don’t want to believe they enjoy sex as much as men enjoy sex. They tell everybody that lesbians are unnatural. Another reason may be that men think other men- even gay men- are more important than women and since men control most of the media and news, they pay more attention to gays than lesbians.
Why do most men hate lesbians?
If a woman only has sex with other women, men lose the opportunity to use her for sex. Some men accuse lesbians of hating men because the lesbians don’t have sex with men. This is immature; they are saying, “You hate me because you won’t give me what I want!!” They also hate lesbians because lesbians are not being controlled by a husband or male partner.
Why do most men hate homosexual men?
Homophobic men are afraid that if they have sex with men, they will be harmed in the same manner they harm women. Maybe they deserve it!
What is “corrective rape”?
“Corrective rape” is when a man or a group of men rape and hurt a woman to try to force her to be heterosexual, or to punish her for being a lesbian. Corrective rape occurs very often in Africa, and girls are often gang raped or forced to marry adult men. These men rape them inside the marriage. It also happens in America. A lesbian who enters a bar or other public places might be followed and “corrected” by males. In the entire world, many lesbians are beaten, tortured, raped, have acid thrown in their faces, disowned, killed, or forced to marry men. However, in America and Europe there are many safe communities and organizations that do not hate lesbians and women.
What should I do if someone tries to punish me for being a lesbian?
Call one of the phone numbers and if you think someone will commit violence against you, contact a women’s shelter in a nearby city and get a lawyer. Make sure the lawyer doesn’t hate lesbians and women. If you cannot do this, tell a good teacher what happens in your home. Nobody should be allowed to try to change your sexuality or abuse you. If someone tries to rape you, report him immediately and get a lawyer who tries to help women and lesbians.