History and Political

Things I’ve Noticed About Patriarchy and its Sicknesses

-Women are called “sensitive” by men because men don’t want to admit their horrific behavior towards women causes women to be unhappy.

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-Many men want to liberate women for the same reason monkeys want to liberate bananas from trees.  

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– Racism suddenly becomes unfashionable when men find out they can bond with men of other races to the detriment of women. 

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-The “right” to have sex means an underclass of people is obligated to provide it. 

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-If prostitution is liberating, why aren’t half of prostitutes men? You get money for having sex. Men are supposed to like sex and they’re supposed to like money. Come on, guys! Deal breaker!

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-Men trade their humanity for acceptance into the boys’ club. If turned away, they demand-still soulless and soiled with the mud they chose to roll in- that women let them back into the Eden they cast themselves out of. When women shut the door, they are called the Devil and Eden Hell. 

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-Marriage and pregnancy are the ball and chain patriarchy uses to keep women imprisoned. Men are drafted to act as the jailers. Men who refuse are traitors. 

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-The unwillingness to subjugate women gets a man kicked out of the boys’ club. This includes unwillingness to lie to women about men and men’s abilities, especially their genitals and their genitals’ abilities.

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-The Rock and Roll movement, especially the late 60s and early 70s genres, promoted bestial sexuality, dark and esoteric occultism, and lack of structure, responsibility, and safety in favor of Dionysian “values,” which overwhelmingly benefit rapists and not women.

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-Why are a surprising amount of gay men misogynistic? It’s obvious. Gay men are still men. It’s patriarchy, not hetero-archy.

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-Many men don’t really like PIV- or any type of sex, for that matter. They like the feeling of phallically conquering something, perhaps including, as secondary benefit, exotic physical sensations to flavor the process.

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-Emmett Till was the black victim of a ghastly beating and unjust murder which were undertaken against him because he whistled in a sexual manner at a white woman…but has anyone stopped to think why it took the murder of a sexual harasser to stir white men’s anger?

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-At least men used to be cultured. Then women gained access to literature, philosophy, and the arts, and men suddenly didn’t want to play with those anymore. 

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-The male dominated libertarian revolutions care about freedom all right: the freedom to do whatever they want…which coincidentally happens to be problematic and oppressive toward women, black people, gays, Native Americans, etc.

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-Do men ever get pressured to go to the doctor’s for erection check ups, or ejaculation control, or napkins for semen “protection”? Why aren’t men hounded to visit an andrologist from age 16 on? Is it, perchance, that the penis is considered perfect?

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-The lesbian and gay movements have a vastly different underlying motive. Lesbians are fighting to end social oppression and intolerance; the gay movement is fighting a cock block. 

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-The great catch-22: Are masculized men homoerotic because they love men or because they hate women?

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-In the French Revolution the theme was “Liberty, equality, and fraternity,” and the word fraternity is very heavily one of male bonding. Liberty for men from feminine like responsibilities and ties, equality (to predicate bonding) among all males, and fraternity meaning loyalty to men of all creeds and classes and to the cause of above said virtues, which included smashing anything “feminine” that (oppressive or not) at least promoted responsibility and sociality. 

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-Male dominated societies always call menstrual blood “dirty”. But notice their attitude towards other bodily fluids- diarrhea, vomit, semen, spit, bile, earwax, pimple pus- they never consider those substances uniquely disgusting. Only the things men cannot produce are considered inhumanly dirty. 

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-Marriage is a trap.

Babies and giving birth is a trap.

Monogamy is a trap.

Heterosexuality is a trap.

Religion is a trap.

“Love” is a trap.

Patriarchy is a trap.

Obedience is a trap.

Tradition is a trap.

Capitalism is a trap.

Society and culture are a trap.

Women in all cultures are trapped by patriarchy.

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-The act of classifying sexuality as hetero or homo is based on a frame that appeals to masculine ideals (as defined by patriarchy): you love or are attracted to people based on their genitals. It’s a very genital-oriented view of attraction. “Do you like cock or cunt?”

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-Men, in general at least, have underlying homoerotic and phallophilic desires. Yet because of heterosexual edicts a man can’t come out and ask other men for sex. Men, as a class, must therefore wordlessly agree to establish a situation in which homosexual behavior or at least titillation is unavoidable: the locker room. 

Although most men have underlying homoerotic tendencies, no man may ask outright for homosexual contact. A request stems from desire; desire signifies need; need signifies weakness, since, in men’s minds, need means ability to be manipulated via that need, and said manipulation could mean the needy individual being forced, if he is desperate enough, to accept being penetrated- being made a woman. 

Therefore, communal male nudity must be ritualized, normalized, ordained from above, expected, forced by circumstance or tradition, and thrust upon men, who would otherwise have to request it and risk being branded as “needy” and hence wiling to take a subordinate role. 

Communal nudity also establishes generic male bonding and allows men to simultaneously perceive the differences among men (underscoring their supposed individuality) and, on a peculiar flip side of this coin, giving them false ideas about “a normal man’s body” (false due to the fact that many men, particularly those with “inadequate” genitals or abilities, do not use locker rooms). Men use this supposedly accurate knowledge about “normal men’s bodies” (and the access to knowledge about all male genitals, behaviors, and personalities the locker room supposedly gives them) to tell women what men are. This is usually lacking in any mention of male inabilities or physical/psychological/behavioral similarities to women. Women cannot know about men who eschew masculinity or who are physically not oppressor material. 

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కట్నం దోపిడీలు, హింస నుండి మిమ్మల్ని మీరు ఎలా రక్షించాలి

ఈ వ్యాసం ఈ సైట్ నుండి తీసుకోబడింది:
http://genderbytes.wordpress.com/2011/12/05/advice-on-how-to-protect-yourself-from-dowry-extortion-and-violence/
సైట్ ఇంగ్లీష్ లో ఉంది. నేను చింతిస్తున్నాము. నేను ఇంటర్నెట్ ఈ వ్యాసం అనువాదం.

డిసెంబర్ మరియు జనవరి భారతదేశం లో వివాహ సీజన్. ప్రతి ఏడాది భారతదేశం కట్నం కోసం హత్య 100,000 కంటే ఎక్కువ మంది మహిళలు ఉన్నారు. మేము వధువు వారి కుటుంబాలకు ఒక సలహా పోస్ట్ చేస్తున్నాము. కట్నం దోపిడీ, హింస మరియు హత్య నుండి నిన్ను నీవు రక్షణ చేయండి.
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1. ఆర్థిక డిమాండ్ ఎలాంటి నగదు ఎక్కడ ఏదైనా వివాహ ఏర్పాట్లలో వెనక్కి:

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బహుమానం ప్రేమ తో ఇచ్చిన విషయం ఇది అడిగారు ఎప్పుడూ.
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కానీ వరులు మరియు వారి కుటుంబాలు అప్పుడు, వారు ఈ ‘బహుమతులు వారికి ఇవ్వలేదు ఉంటే వివాహ కాల్ ఆఫ్ బెదిరించారు ఏ రకాల బహుమతులు (ఇళ్ళు, కార్లు, ఉద్యోగాలు, ప్రమోషన్లు) మరియు, వారు వివాహ ఎంత డబ్బు పేర్కొనండి ప్రారంభం ఉంటే ఈ బహుమతులు ఇవ్వటం లేదు. ఈ బ్లాక్మెయిల్ ఉంది! ఇది చట్టవిరుద్ధం! ఇది దోపిడీ ఉంది! ఇది ఒక క్రిమినల్ చర్య.
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భారత మహిళలు మరియు వారి కుటుంబాలను అటువంటి కుటుంబాల నీతులు మరియు సామాజిక విలువలు గురించి ఆలోచించటం ఉండాలి. వారు దోపిడీ నేరస్థులు ఉంటే అవి సామర్థ్యం ఏమి ఉన్నాయి? హత్య? బహుశా. భారతదేశం లో యువ వధువు యొక్క కట్నం హత్యలు వేల ఈ అత్యాశ కుటుంబాలు వివాహ తర్వాత డబ్బును బలవంతంగా కొనసాగుతుంది అని. వారు వధువులు న భయంకరమైన హింసను ప్రేరేపించడానికి, మరియు యువ మహిళలు చివరకు వేల హత్య చేస్తారు!
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ఎందుకు ఏ స్త్రీ ఒక కుటుంబం వివాహం చేసుకునేందుకు ఇష్టపడుతున్నారు చేయాలి? ఎందుకు మహిళలు మరియు వారి తల్లిదండ్రులు హింస బెదిరించేందుకు మరియు కలిగించలేకపోయింది వ్యక్తులకు సొమ్ము చెల్లించటానికి చేయాలి?
కాబట్టి మేము పదేపదే హెచ్చరిస్తుంది అన్ని వధువు కావలెను నుండి మరియు వారి కుటుంబాలు – వరుడు కుటుంబం సమయంలో లేదా తర్వాత వివాహ, ముందు ఏదైనా అడుగుతాడు ఉంటే తీవ్ర ప్రమాద సంకేతం గా తీసుకుని!
ఫాస్ట్ పొందండి! మీరు ఎంత దూరం వివాహ సన్నాహాలు లోకి ఉన్నా! అది పెళ్లి రోజు కూడా!
వివాహ వెళ్ళరు.
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వారు డిమాండ్ చేశారు ఒకసారి వారు తక్కువ డబ్బు అడుగుతాము మీరు చెప్పండి కూడా, అవుట్ మరియు అమరిక వదిలివేయడం జరిగింది. స్టడీస్ లేదా అనేక వివాహాలు వారు అకస్మాత్తుగా కట్నం ఎంటర్టైన్ నిర్ణయించుకుంటారు కూడా, వారు పెళ్లి తర్వాత వరకు వేచి అని.

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కుటుంబాలు ఈ విధమైన నమ్మరు!
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2. ఆర్థిక డిమాండ్ అయినా పెళ్లి తర్వాత ఎప్పుడైనా మేడ్ ఉంటే అవివాహిత శీఘ్రంగా వైవాహిక లీవ్ హోమ్ ఉండాలి:

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ఆధునిక కాలంలో, కట్నం డిమాండ్ లేదు ముందు, పెళ్లి తర్వాత జరుగుతున్నాయి. భర్త యొక్క కుటుంబాలు వివాహానికి ముందు కట్నం డిమాండ్ చేస్తే, వధువు కుటుంబం వివాహం అంగీకరించకపోతే అని తెలుసుకుంటారు. కాబట్టి వారు కట్నం డిమాండ్ ను వివాహం తరువాత వరకు వేచి.
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అక్కడ భారతదేశం లో విడాకులు వ్యతిరేకంగా నిషేధం, అప్పటి నుండీ ఒక వివాహం అమ్మాయి ‘నాశనమైన’ ఎందుకంటే – వివాహ ముందు కట్నం దోపిడీ లో ఇవ్వాలని లేదు గల వధువు కావలెను అనేక కుటుంబాలు, పెళ్లి తర్వాత నిరంతర బెదిరించేందుకు లో ఇస్తాయి.
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అయితే, ఈ ప్రమాదకరం. డబ్బు మరియు వధువు యొక్క కుటుంబం నుండి ఆర్ధిక వనరుల కోసం డిమాండ్ ముగింపు ఎప్పుడూ, మరియు అద్భుతమైన హింస ఉంది యువ వధువు న అత్తమామలు ఆమెను తన తల్లిదండ్రుల నుండి మరింత నగదు లేదా ద్రవ్య సహాయాలు పొందాలనుకోవడం ప్రతిసారీ విధించారు.
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ఉదాహరణ: చాలా డబ్బును సంపాదించడం చేసిన హెచ్డీఎఫ్సీ బ్యాంకు (భారతదేశం యొక్క అతిపెద్ద బ్యాంకింగ్ నెట్వర్క్ యొక్క ఒక రోజు), ఒక స్త్రీ మేనేజర్ మరింత డబ్బు కోసం వేధించినట్లు జరిగినది. ఆమె సంబంధించి చట్టాలను ‘ఇంటి రుణాలను చెల్లించడానికి తయారు చేస్తారు, తర్వాత యునైటెడ్ స్టేట్స్ లో తన సోదరుడు లో చట్టం యొక్క విశ్వవిద్యాలయ విద్య కోసం చెల్లించాల్సి వచ్చింది. ఇది ఆమె దుర్వినియోగం మరియు హింస ఇకపై ఆత్మహత్య చేసుకున్నాడు భరించలేకపోయాడు కాబట్టి భయంకరమైన వచ్చింది. అనేక సందర్భాల్లో, పిల్లలు పుట్టిన తర్వాత కూడా కట్నం దోపిడీలు, భౌతిక దుర్వినియోగం కొనసాగుతుంది, మరియు వారు డబ్బు తీసుకురావడానికి చెప్పవలసిన అవసరం మహిళలు హత్య జరుగుతుంది.

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కాబట్టి మీరు వివాహితులు ఉన్నప్పటికీ, మీ భద్రత కోసం వెంటనే ఆ హౌస్ పంపండి.

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పొందడానికి విషయాలు వేచి లేదు “మంచి.” దోపిడీలు, హింస ప్రారంభాల్లో ప్రక్రియ ఒకసారి, వారు మాత్రమే ఎక్కువగా కోసం ఆకలితో. ఇది మంచి అందదు! ఇది మాత్రమే దిగజారటం కనిపిస్తుంది! మీరు వెంటనే పొందడానికి అవసరం.
అన్షు సింగ్ స్టోరీ చూడండి – ఆమె కేవలం 45 రోజుల ఆమె పెళ్లి తర్వాత హత్య. కొద్ది సమయంలోనే ఆమె అత్తమామల ఆమె చెల్లించడానికి తో పని బహుళజాతి కంపెనీ నుండి (లక్షల) ఋణం లో భారీ మొత్తంలో తీసుకున్నారు.
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3. వివాహ లీగల్లీ సాంప్రదాయ కార్యక్రమానికి ముందు రిజిస్టర్ నిర్ధారించుకోండి:

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చాలా భారతీయ కుటుంబాలలో ఒక ఫాన్సీ మరియు సాంప్రదాయ భారతీయ వివాహ కావలసిన మరియు ఒక అధికారిక నమోదు పొందలేము.
మత సంప్రదాయ వివాహాల మీద భారతీయ చట్టాల అస్పష్టంగా ఉన్నాయి. వారు భార్యాభర్తలు కూడా వివాహం విషయాన్ని రుజువు కాలేదు ఎందుకంటే హత్య వధువు యొక్క కుటుంబాలు ఆరోపణలు దాఖలు చేయలేక ఉన్నాయి పరిస్థితులు ఉన్నాయి.
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కాబట్టి మేము గట్టిగా అధికారిక నమోదు సంప్రదాయ వివాహ ముందు నొక్కి చెప్పారు.
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నమోదు సరైన సర్టిఫికేట్ ప్రభుత్వ అధికారి చేస్తారు నిర్ధారించుకోండి. మీరు అధికారిక సర్టిఫికెట్, స్టాంప్ మరియు సంతకం కొన్ని కాపీలు ఉన్నాయి, మరియు ఈ పత్రం యొక్క ఒక నకలు అలాగే వధువు కుటుంబం భద్రపరచటం ఉంది నిర్ధారించుకోండి.
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4. వధువుకు గిఫ్ట్ ఇచ్చిన అంతా నమోదు ప్రీ పూర్వం చేయండి:
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ALL కట్నం హత్యలు కారణం దోపిడీ, బ్లాక్మెయిల్ మరియు గ్రాండ్ larceny ఉంది.
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హింస భర్త మరియు అత్తమామలు ఆర్థిక అవసరాలలో ఉంచడానికి మరియు తన కుటుంబం ఒత్తిడి తెచ్చింది వధువు కలిగించిన ఉంది. కానీ వధువు హత్య కారణంగా భారతదేశం లో ఒక వ్యక్తి విడాకులు శిక్షను అనుభవించాల్సి కంటే హత్య శిక్ష అనేది చాలా తక్కువ ఎందుకంటే చట్టబద్ధంగా! వధువు విడాకులు గెట్స్, ఆమె తన సంబంధించి చట్టాలను నుండి ఆమె డబ్బు మరియు వస్తువులు డిమాండ్ చేయవచ్చు. ఆమె హత్య అయితే, మనవళ్ళు కట్నం హత్య చాలా సందర్భాలలో కూడా సరిగా పోలీసులు దర్యాప్తు లేదు తెలుసు. వారు ‘ఆత్మహత్య’ లేదా ‘ప్రమాదం’ వంటి విస్మరించబడతాయి మరియు విషయం పూర్తిఅవుతుంది!
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కట్నం హత్యలు రెండు సందర్భాలలో జరిగే. వధువు కుటుంబం-నిరంతరం బ్లాక్మెయిల్ అలసిపోయి, మరియు చివరకు ఇది ఏ ఇస్తూ కాదు నిర్ణయిస్తుంది అయినప్పుడు ఒకటి. అప్పుడు వధువు సంబంధించి చట్టాలను ఏ “వినియోగం” ఉంటుంది. వారు ఆమె ‘ఉంచడానికి’ కు-చట్టాల ‘చెల్లింపు’ వంటి ఇచ్చాను డబ్బు కాబట్టి తరచుగా ఆమె తల్లిదండ్రులు గాని ఆమె తిరిగి లేదు. ఆ భర్త మరియు అత్తమామలు ఆమెను చంపడానికి చేసినప్పుడు యొక్క.
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మధ్య మరియు ఉన్నత మధ్యతరగతి గృహాలను లో, ఆమె తన భర్త తన భర్త మరియు అత్తమామలు అన్ని డబ్బు ఉంచడానికి పొందాలని మరియు ఖచ్చితమైన మార్గం బయలుదేరడానికి ముందు పేరు వధువు తల్లిదండ్రుల ఆమె తిరిగి తీసుకొని ఆమె ఒక విడాకులు పొందడానికి సహాయంగా, వధువు చంపడం ఉండవచ్చు వారు ఆమె నుండి తీసుకున్నారు వస్తువులు. వారు కూడా వధువు ఆమె డబ్బు పొందడానికి ప్రయత్నించండి సుమారు కాదు నిర్ధారించుకోండి ఈ మార్గం!
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ఇలా జరగకుండా దీనిని నివారించడానికి ఉత్తమమైన మార్గం వధువు కుటుంబం వధువు తమకు బహుమతులు వంటి ఇస్తుంది ప్రతిదీ నమోదు చేయాలి. ఇది కట్నం ఇవ్వడం లేదా తీసుకోవడం చట్టవిరుద్ధం. కానీ వధువు తల్లిదండ్రుల ఆమె పూర్తి ఆస్తి ఇవి తన వివాహ కోసం నగదు బహుమతి ఆమె విషయాలు చెయ్యవచ్చు. వధువు కావలెను యొక్క కుటుంబాలు తమను తాము రక్షించుకోవడానికి ఈ చట్టం యొక్క ప్రయోజనాన్ని ఉండాలి. ఆ విధంగా, కట్నం హింస మరియు బెదిరింపులు వివాహ ప్రారంభించాలని కూడా వధువు సురక్షితంగా వివాహం వదిలి ఆమె లేదా ఆమె కుటుంబం ఆమె ఇచ్చిన అన్ని బహుమతులు ను పొందడానికి చేయవచ్చు.

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ఇది కూడా బలవంతంగా మరియు చంపడానికి తక్కువ వరులు మరియు వారి కుటుంబాలు చేస్తుంది. డబ్బు వారి ఉద్దేశ్యం, డబ్బు మీద చేతులు పొందడంలో వాటిని నిరోధించే ఒక చట్టబద్ధంగా గట్టి ఏర్పాటు కనుక – వాటిని ఏ వివాహ కొనసాగించదలిచారా ఇస్తుంది.
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కాబట్టి వివాహానికి ముందు, వధువు కుటుంబం వారు బహుమతులు వంటి ఇచ్చిన అన్ని విషయాలను న్యాయపరమైన పట్టుబట్టుతారు ఉండాలి.
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స్త్రీ వదిలి మేము కూడా బలంగా మీ న్యాయవాదులు సంప్రదించటం సిఫార్సు, మరియు వధువు మరియు భర్త రెండు నమోదు ప్రతిదీ స్త్రీ లేదా ఆమె తల్లిదండ్రులు వివాహం విచ్ఛిన్నం లేదా ఉండాలి తిరిగి తప్పక వివాహానికి ముందు ఒక క్లాజ్ సైన్ ఉంటుంది వివాహం లేదా మరణిస్తాడు. నిబంధన, మీరు నమోదు వంటి మీరు భావిస్తారు అని ప్రతిదీ సూచిస్తున్నాయి ఉండాలి. వివాహ సమయంలో మరియు తర్వాత, విలువ ముందు యొక్క మేధావులైన ప్రతిదీ యొక్క వివరణాత్మక రికార్డులు మరియు బిల్లులు ఉంచండి. కుటుంబాల కుమార్తెల సంతకాలు ఆమోదం రుజువు ప్రతి సమయం భావిస్తారు, మరియు జాబితా ఆమె తల్లిదండ్రులు పెట్టే నిర్ధారించాలి.
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భర్త యొక్క కుటుంబం నమోదైన బహుమతులు మరియు తిరిగి నిబంధన యొక్క చట్టపరమైన పత్రికీకరణను అంగీకరిస్తున్నారు ఇష్టం ఉంటే, అప్పుడు వధువు కుటుంబం వారి ఉద్దేశ్యాలను అనుమానాస్పద అని ప్రతి కారణం కలిగి ఉంది. దయచేసి ఈ వివాహం వెళ్ళరు.
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5. కట్నం డిమాండ్ చేసే కుటుంబ వ్యతిరేకంగా పోలీసు ఫైలు:
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ఒక భావి భర్త కుటుంబం కట్నం డిమాండ్ చేస్తే, ఆ వివాహం ఏర్పాటు అంగీకరిస్తున్నారు లేదు. కానీ పోలీసులు వారిని ఫిర్యాదు దయచేసి వారు మరొక కుటుంబం బాధించే ముందు రెండుసార్లు భావించే.
కట్నం కోసం అడుగుతూ చట్టం కింద శిక్ష విధించేలా ఉంటుంది మరియు మీరు 2 ఖైదు సంవత్సరాలు మరియు 10,000 / ఒక నాణ్యమైన పొందవచ్చు –
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ఈ భయంకరమైన అగ్లీ, మరియు క్రూరమైన సంప్రదాయం ముగించడానికి మా పోరాటంలో భాగం! కట్నం ఖైదీలకు వ్యతిరేకంగా మీ చర్య భారతదేశం లో అనేక మంది యువ మహిళలను ప్రాణాలు కాపాడటానికి కనిపిస్తుంది.

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வரதட்சணை மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல், மற்றும் வன்முறை உங்களை பாதுகாத்துக்கொள்வது எப்படி

இந்த கட்டுரை இந்த தளத்தில் இருந்து எடுக்கப்பட்டது:

தளத்தில் ஆங்கிலத்தில் உள்ளது. நான் மன்னிப்பு கேட்கிறேன். நான் இணைய இந்த கட்டுரை மொழிபெயர்க்கப்பட்டது.

டிசம்பர் மற்றும் ஜனவரி இந்தியாவில் திருமண சீசன் ஆகும். ஒவ்வொரு ஆண்டும் இந்தியாவில் வரதட்சணை கொலை 100,000 க்கும் அதிகமான பெண்கள் உள்ளன. நாம் மணப்பெண் மற்றும் அவர்களது குடும்பங்களுக்கு ஒரு ஆலோசனை பதிவு செய்கிறீர்கள். வரதட்சணை மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல், வன்முறை மற்றும் கொலை இருந்து உங்களை பாதுகாக்க வேண்டும்.
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1. நிதி தேவை எந்த விதமான பண தயாரிக்கப்பட்டது எங்கே ஏதாவதொன்று திருமண ஏற்பாடு பின்வாங்க:

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ஒரு பரிசு காதல் கொடுக்கப்பட்ட ஒன்று; அது கேட்டதில்லை உள்ளது.
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ஆனால் மாப்பிள்ளை மற்றும் அவர்களது குடும்பங்கள் பிறகு, அவர்கள் இந்த ‘பரிசு’ அவர்களுக்கு கொடுக்கப்பட்ட என்றால் திருமண நிறுத்த அச்சுறுத்தல் என்ன வகையான பரிசுகள் (வீடுகள், கார்கள், வேலைகள், விளம்பரங்கள்) மற்றும், அவர்கள் திருமண வேண்டும் எவ்வளவு பணம் குறிப்பிட ஆரம்பித்தால் இந்த பரிசை வழங்கும் அல்ல. இந்த பயமுறுத்தல்! இது சட்டவிரோதமானது! இது மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல் என்பது! அது ஒரு குற்றவியல் நடவடிக்கையாகும்.
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இந்திய பெண்கள் மற்றும் அவர்களது குடும்பங்கள் இத்தகைய குடும்பங்கள் ஒழுக்கம் மற்றும் சமூக மதிப்புகள் பற்றி சிந்திக்க வேண்டும். அவர்கள் மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல் குற்றவாளிகள் என்றால், அவை வேறு என்ன? கொலை? ஒருவேளை. இந்தியாவில் இளம் மணமகள்களில் வரதட்சணை கொலைகள் ஆயிரக்கணக்கான இந்த பேராசை குடும்பங்கள் திருமணத்திற்கு பிறகு பணம் பறி தொடர்ந்து காட்டுகிறது. அவர்கள் மணப்பெண் மீது கொடூரமான வன்முறை என்பதற்கும், மற்றும் இளம் பெண்கள் இறுதியில் ஆயிரக்கணக்கான கொலை இருக்கும்!
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ஏன் எந்த பெண் ஒரு குடும்பத்தில் திருமணம் செய்துகொள்ள வேண்டும் வேண்டும்? ஏன் பெண்கள் மற்றும் அவர்களின் பெற்றோர்கள் வன்முறை மிரட்டல் மற்றும் ஏற்படுத்துவதற்கு மக்கள் பணம் செலுத்த வேண்டும்?
எனவே நாம் மீண்டும் மீண்டும் எச்சரிக்கை அனைத்து மணப்பெண் முதல் மற்றும் அவர்களது குடும்பங்கள் – மணமகன் குடும்பத்தினர் போது அல்லது திருமணத்திற்கு பிறகு, முன் ஏதாவது கேட்டால் தீவிர ஆபத்து அடையாளமாக தயவு செய்து!
வேகமாக வெளியே! நீங்கள் எவ்வளவு தூரம் திருமண ஏற்பாடுகள் பற்றி கவலை இல்லை! இது திருமண நாள் கூட!
திருமண தொடர்ந்து செய்ய வேண்டாம்.
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அவர்கள் ஒரு கோரிக்கையை செய்த முறை அவர்கள் குறைவான பணம் கேட்பது என்று சொல்ல கூட, வெளியே ஏற்பாடு கைவிட. ஆய்வுகள் அல்லது பல திருமணங்கள் அவர்கள் திடீரென்று வரதட்சணை கேட்க வேண்டாமா என முடிவு கூட, அவர்கள் அவ்வாறு செய்ய திருமணத்திற்கு பிறகு வரை காத்திருக்க காட்டுகின்றன.

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குடும்பங்கள் இந்த வகையான நம்பவில்லை!
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2. நிதி தேவை எந்த வகையான திருமண பிறகு எந்த நேரம் மேட் என்றால் பெண் விரைவாக திருமண முகப்பு போக வேண்டும்:

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நவீன காலத்தில், வரதட்சணை கோரிக்கைகளை இல்லை முன், திருமணத்திற்கு பிறகு செய்யப்படும். கணவரின் குடும்பங்கள் அவர்கள் திருமணத்திற்கு முன் ஒரு வரதட்சணை தேவை செய்தால், மணமகள் வீட்டார் திருமணத்தை ஒத்து என்று உணர. எனவே வரதட்சணை தேவை செய்ய திருமணத்திற்கு பிறகு வரை காத்திருக்க.
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அங்கு இந்தியாவில் விவாகரத்து எதிராக விலக்கப்பட்டிருக்கிறது, மற்றும் முதல் ஒரு திருமணம் பெண் ‘கெட்டுப்போன’ கருதப்படுகிறது ஏனெனில் – திருமணத்திற்கு முன் வரதட்சணை மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல் ல் கொடுக்க வேண்டும் என்று மணப்பெண் பல குடும்பங்கள், திருமணத்திற்கு பிறகு தொடர்ந்து பயமுறுத்துவது வரை கொடுக்க.
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எனினும், இந்த ஆபத்தானது. பணம் மற்றும் மணமகள் குடும்பத்தினர் நிதி வளங்கள் தேவை முற்றுப்புள்ளி இல்லை, மற்றும் பெரும் வன்முறை இல்லை இளம் மணமகள் மீது மாமியார் அவளை அவளது பெற்றோர் மேலும் பணம் அல்லது பண உதவிகள் பெற வேண்டும் ஒவ்வொரு முறையும் விதித்தார்.
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எடுத்துக்காட்டாக: எவ்வளவு பணம் சம்பாதித்து கொண்டிருந்த ஹெச்டிஎப்சி வங்கி (இந்தியாவின் மிகப்பெரிய வங்கி நெட்வொர்க்குகள் ஒரு இன்று), ஒரு பெண் மேலாளர் இன்னும் பணம் தொந்தரவு இருந்தது. அவள் மாமியார் வீட்டில் கடனை செய்து, பின்னர் அமெரிக்காவில் உள்ள அவரது சகோதரர் அண்ணி பல்கலைக்கழக கல்வி கொடுக்க வேண்டிய கட்டாயத்தில் இருந்தார். அதை அவர் தவறாக மற்றும் சித்திரவதை இனி மற்றும் தற்கொலை தாங்க முடியவில்லை இவ்வளவு கொடூரமாக இருக்கிறது. பல சந்தர்ப்பங்களில், குழந்தைகள் பிறக்கின்றன பிறகும் கூட, வரதட்சணை மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல், மற்றும் உடல் முறைகேடு தொடர்ந்து, அவர்கள் பணத்தை கொண்டு நிறுத்தினால் போது பெண்கள் கொலை செய்து.

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அதனால் திருமணம் கூட, உங்கள் பாதுகாப்பு உடனடியாக அந்த வீட்டை விடுங்கள்.

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இங்கு பொருட்களை காத்திருக்க வேண்டாம் “சிறந்த.” மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல், மற்றும் வன்முறை துவங்குகிறது செயல்முறை ஒருமுறை, அவர்கள் மட்டும் இன்னும் பட்டினியாக கிடைக்கும். இது நல்ல கிடைக்காது! அது மட்டும் மோசமாக வரும்! நீங்கள் விரைவில் வெளியே வேண்டும்.
Anshu சிங் கதை பார்க்க – அவள் 45 நாட்கள் அவள் திருமணத்திற்கு பின் கொலை செய்யப்பட்டார். அந்த குறுகிய நேரத்தில் அவள் தன் மாமியார் வீட்டிற்கு செலுத்த கூடிய வேலை பன்னாட்டு நிறுவனம் (லட்சம்) கடன் மிக பெரிய அளவில் ரன் எடுத்தார்.
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3. திருமண சட்டப்படி பாரம்பரியமான விழா முன் பதிவு உறுதிப்படுத்துங்கள்:

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பெரும்பாலான இந்திய குடும்பங்கள் ஒரு ஆடம்பரமான மற்றும் இந்திய பாரம்பரிய திருமண வேண்டும் மற்றும் ஒரு அதிகாரி பதிவு இல்லை.
மத பாரம்பரிய திருமணங்கள் இந்திய சட்டங்கள் மிகவும் தெளிவற்ற உள்ளன. அவர்கள் வாழ்க்கை கூட திருமணம் என்று நிரூபிக்க முடியாததால் கொலை மணப்பெண் குடும்பங்களுக்கு குற்றச்சாட்டுக்களை பதிவு செய்ய முடியவில்லை என்று சூழ்நிலைகளில் உள்ளன.
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எனவே நாம் கடுமையாக அதிகாரப்பூர்வ பதிவு பாரம்பரிய திருமணத்திற்கு முன் செய்ய வேண்டும் என்று வலியுறுத்த வேண்டும்.
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பதிவு ஒரு ஒழுங்காக சான்றிதழ் அரசாங்கத்தின் உத்தியோகபூர்வ செய்யப்படும் என்று உறுதி. நீங்கள் உத்தியோகபூர்வ சான்றிதழ், முத்திரை மற்றும் கையெழுத்திட்ட ஒரு சில நகல்கள் வேண்டும், மற்றும் இந்த ஆவணத்தின் நகலை மற்றும் மணமகள் குடும்பத்தை safekeeping என்பது உறுதி.
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4. பெண் பரிசு வழங்கப்படும் அனைத்தும் பதிவு ஒரு முன் திருமண செய்ய:
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அனைத்து வரதட்சணை கொலைகளுக்கு காரணம் மிரட்டி பணம் பறித்தல், மிரட்டல் மற்றும் பெரும் களவு இல்லை.
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வன்முறை கணவன் மற்றும் மாமியார் நிதி கோரிக்கைகளை சந்தித்து வைத்து அவளது குடும்பத்தை கட்டாயப்படுத்துவதற்காக மணமகள் மீது திணித்த. ஆனால் மணமகள் கொலை காரணம் இந்தியாவில் ஒரு நபர் விவாகரத்து தண்டிக்கப்பட வேண்டும் விட கொலை தண்டிக்கப்பட வாய்ப்பு குறைவாக இருப்பதால் சட்டபூர்வமாக இல்லை! மணமகள் விவாகரத்து கிடைத்தால், அவள் மாமியார் வீட்டில் மீண்டும் தனது பணம் மற்றும் பொருட்களை கேட்கலாம். அவர் கொலை என்றால் ஆனால், மாமியார் வரதட்சணை கொலை பெரும்பாலான நேரங்களில் கூட ஒழுங்காக போலீஸ் விசாரணை இல்லை என்று எனக்கு தெரியும். அவர்கள் ‘தற்கொலை’ அல்லது ‘விபத்து’ என புறக்கணிக்கப்படும் மற்றும் வழக்கு மூடப்பட்டு!
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வரதட்சணை கொலைகள் இரண்டு சூழல்களில் நடக்கும். பெண்ணின் குடும்பம் என்றுமே முடிவுறாத பயமுறுத்துவது சோர்ந்து, இறுதியில் அது எந்த கொடுத்து வைத்திருக்க முடியாது முடிவு வந்த பிறகுதான் ஒரு. பின்னர் மணமகள் மாமியார் இல்லை “பயன்பாடு” என்பது. அவர்கள் தனது ‘வைத்து’ என்று மாமியார் ‘பணம்’ என கொடுத்து பணம் பார்க்க ஏனெனில் அடிக்கடி அவரது பெற்றோர் அல்லது அவளை திரும்ப விரும்பவில்லை. என்று கணவன் மற்றும் மாமியார் அவளை கொன்று விடுவேன் போது தான்.
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நடுத்தர மற்றும் உயர் வர்க்கம் வீடுகளில், அவள் கணவன் அவள் கணவன் மற்றும் மாமியார் அனைத்து பணத்தை வைத்து கிடைக்கும் என்று உறுதி மற்றும் சரியான வழி விட்டு முன் அங்கு பெண்ணின் பெற்றோர் அவளை திரும்ப அழைத்து, அவளை விவாகரத்து பெற, மணமகள் கொன்று விடும் அவர்கள் அவளை இருந்து வந்திருக்கிறேன் பொருட்கள். அவர்கள் மணமகள் தனது பணத்தை பெற முயற்சி சுற்றி அல்ல என்று இந்த வழி!
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நடப்பதை தடுக்க சிறந்த வழி மணமகள் வீட்டார் மணமகளுக்கு ‘பரிசு’ என கொடுக்கிறது என்று எல்லாவற்றையும் பதிவு செய்ய உள்ளது. இது வரதட்சணை கொடுக்க அல்லது எடுத்து சட்டவிரோதமானது. ஆனால் ஒரு பெண்ணின் பெற்றோர் அவளை ஒரே சொத்து தன் திருமணம், ரொக்க உள்ள பரிசு சாமான்களை முடியும். மணமகள் தேவை குடும்பங்கள் தங்களை பாதுகாக்க இந்த சட்டத்தை பயன்படுத்தி கொள்ள வேண்டும். அந்த வழியில், வரதட்சணை வன்முறை மற்றும் அச்சுறுத்தல்களை திருமணத்திற்கு பிறகு தொடங்க கூட மணமகள் பாதுகாப்பாக திருமண விட்டு அவள் அல்லது அவள் குடும்பம் மீண்டும் அவளுக்கு கொடுத்த அனைத்து பரிசுகளை வாங்கி உறுதி செய்ய முடியும்.

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இது பறி மற்றும் கொல்ல குறைவான மாப்பிள்ளை மற்றும் அவர்களது குடும்பங்கள் உள்ளன. பணம், அவர்களின் நோக்கம், பணம் தங்கள் கைகளில் பெற்று தடுக்கப்படும் என்று ஒரு சட்டபூர்வமாக இறுக்கமான ஏற்பாடு என்பதால் – அவர்கள் எந்த திருமண தொடர விரும்பினால் கொடுக்கிறது.
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அதனால் திருமணத்திற்கு முன், மணமகள் வீட்டார் அவர்கள் பரிசுகளை கொடுக்கப்பட்ட எல்லா விஷயங்களையும் ஒரு சட்ட ஆவணத்தில் வலியுறுத்துகின்றனர் வேண்டும்.
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பெண் விட்டு நாங்கள் உங்கள் வழக்கறிஞர்கள் ஆலோசனை பரிந்துரைக்கிறோம், மற்றும் மணமகள் மற்றும் கணவர் இருவரும் பதிவு என்று எல்லாம் பெண் அல்லது அவரது பெற்றோர் திருமணம் உடைக்க அல்லது வேண்டும் திரும்பினார் வேண்டும் என்று திருமணத்திற்கு முன் ஒரு பிரிவு கையெழுத்திட வேண்டும் திருமணம் அல்லது இறந்துவிடுகிறான். உட்பிரிவில், நீங்கள் பதிவு என நீங்கள் கருதும் என்று எல்லாம் சுட்டிக்காட்ட வேண்டும். திருமணத்தின் போது மற்றும் பிறகு, மதிப்பு முன் பரிசளித்தார் எல்லாம் விரிவான பதிவுகளை மற்றும் கட்டணங்கள் வைத்து. குடும்பங்கள் தங்கள் மகள்கள் ‘கையெழுத்து ஏற்பு சான்று ஒவ்வொரு முறையும் கருதப்படுகிறது, மற்றும் பட்டியல் தனது பெற்றோருடன் வைக்கப்பட்டு உறுதி வேண்டும்.
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கணவரின் குடும்பத்தில் பதிவு பரிசுகள் மற்றும் அதன் வருவாய் பிரிவு சட்ட ஆவணங்களை ஏற்று கொள்ள தயாராக இருந்தால், மணமகள் வீட்டார் தங்கள் நோக்கத்தை என்ற சந்தேகம் ஒவ்வொரு காரணம் உள்ளது. தயவு செய்து இந்த திருமணத்தை தொடர வேண்டாம்.
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5. ஒரு வரதட்சணை தேவை என்பதை குடும்பத்திற்கு எதிராக போலீஸ் புகார் தாக்கல்:
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ஒரு வருங்கால கணவரின் குடும்பத்தில் ஒரு வரதட்சணை தேவை என்றால், அந்த திருமண ஏற்பாட்டை ஒத்து கொள்ளவில்லை. ஆனால் போலீசார் அவர்களை எதிர்த்து ஒரு அறிக்கை தாக்கல் செய்து, அவர்கள் மற்றொரு குடும்பத்தை தொந்தரவு முன் ஒருமுறைக்கு இருமுறை யோசிக்க வேண்டும்.
வரதட்சணை கேட்டு சட்டத்தின் கீழ் தண்டனை மற்றும் நீ 2 சிறை ஆண்டுகள் மற்றும் 10,000 / அபராதம் பெற முடியும் –
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இந்த மோசமாக அசிங்கமான, மற்றும் மிருகத்தனமான பாரம்பரியம் முடிவுக்கு எங்கள் போராட்டத்தின் ஒரு பகுதியாக இருக்க வேண்டும்! வரதட்சணை குற்றவாளிகள் எதிராக உங்கள் நடவடிக்கை இந்தியாவில் பல இளம் பெண்கள் வாழ்க்கையை பாதுகாக்கும் வேண்டும்.

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ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಸುಲಿಗೆ ಮತ್ತು ಹಿಂಸೆ ಗೆ ನಿಮ್ಮನ್ನು ರಕ್ಷಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಹೇಗೆ

 

 

ಈ ಲೇಖನ ಈ ಸೈಟ್ ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳಲಾಗಿದೆ:
http://genderbytes.wordpress.com/2011/12/05/advice-on-how-to-protect-yourself-from-dowry-extortion-and-violence/
ಸೈಟ್ ಇಂಗ್ಲೀಷ್ ನಲ್ಲಿ ಹೊಂದಿದೆ. ನಾನು ಕ್ಷಮೆಯಾಚಿಸುತ್ತೇವೆ. ನಾನು ಇಂಟರ್ನೆಟ್ ಈ ಲೇಖನದ ಅನುವಾದ.

ಡಿಸೆಂಬರ್ ಮತ್ತು ಜನವರಿ ಭಾರತದಲ್ಲಿ ಮದುವೆ ಜರಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಪ್ರತಿ ವರ್ಷ ಭಾರತದಲ್ಲಿ ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಗಾಗಿ ಕೊಲೆ ಹೆಚ್ಚು 100,000 ಮಹಿಳೆಯರು ಇದ್ದಾರೆ. ನಾವು ವಧುಗಳು ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳಿಗೆ ಸಲಹಾ ಪೋಸ್ಟ್ ಮಾಡುತ್ತಿದ್ದಾರೆ. ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಸುಲಿಗೆ, ಹಿಂಸೆ ಮತ್ತು ಕೊಲೆ ನಿಂದ ನಿಮ್ಮನ್ನು ರಕ್ಷಿಸಲು ದಯವಿಟ್ಟು.
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1. ಹಣಕಾಸಿನ ಬೇಡಿಕೆ ಯಾವುದೇ ರೀತಿಯ ನಗದು ಮಾಡಲಾಗಿದೆ ಯಾವುದೇ ವೆಡ್ಡಿಂಗ್ ವ್ಯವಸ್ಥೆಯ ಔಟ್ ಬ್ಯಾಕ್:

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ಉಡುಗೊರೆ ಪ್ರೀತಿಯನ್ನು ನೀಡಿದ ವಿಷಯ; ಇದನ್ನು ಕೇಳಿದ ಎಂದಿಗೂ.
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ಆದರೆ ವಲ್ಕ್ ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು, ಈ ‘ಉಡುಗೊರೆ’ ಅವರಿಗೆ ನೀಡಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ ವೇಳೆ ಮದುವೆಯ ಆಫ್ ಕರೆಯಲು ಬೆದರಿಕೆ ಯಾವ ರೀತಿಯ ಉಡುಗೊರೆಗಳನ್ನು (ಮನೆ, ಕಾರುಗಳು, ಉದ್ಯೋಗಗಳು, ಪ್ರಚಾರಗಳು) ಮತ್ತು, ಅವರು ಮದುವೆಗೆ ಬಯಸುವ ಎಷ್ಟು ಹಣವನ್ನು ಸೂಚಿಸಲು ಆರಂಭಿಸುವ ವೇಳೆ ಈ ಉಡುಗೊರೆ ನೀಡುವ ಅಲ್ಲ. ಈ ಬೆದರಿಕೆ ಹೊಂದಿದೆ! ಕಾನೂನುಬಾಹಿರ! ಇದು ಸುಲಿಗೆ ಆಗಿದೆ! ಇದು ಒಂದು ಅಪರಾಧ ಕಾರ್ಯವಾಗಿದೆ.
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ಭಾರತೀಯ ಮಹಿಳೆಯರು ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳ ನೀತಿಗಳು ಮತ್ತು ಸಾಮಾಜಿಕ ಮೌಲ್ಯಗಳ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಆಲೋಚಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಅವರು ಸುಲಿಗೆ ಅಪರಾಧಿಗಳು, ಅವರು ಸಾಮರ್ಥ್ಯವನ್ನು ಬೇರೆ ಯಾವುವು? ಕೊಲೆ? ಬಹುಶಃ. ಭಾರತದ ಯುವ ವಧುಗಳ ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಕೊಲೆಗಳು ಸಾವಿರಾರು ಈ ದುರಾಸೆಯ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ಮದುವೆ ಹಣ ಬಲತ್ಕಾರಿಸಿ ಮುಂದುವರಿಯುತ್ತದೆ ಎಂದು ತೋರಿಸಲು. ಅವರು ವಧುಗಳು ಮೇಲೆ ಭಯಾನಕ ಹಿಂಸೆ ಅಳೆಯಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ, ಮತ್ತು ಯುವತಿಯರು ಅಂತಿಮವಾಗಿ ಸಾವಿರಾರು ಕೊಲೆ ಮಾಡಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ!
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ಏಕೆ ಯಾವುದೇ ಮಹಿಳೆ ಇಂತಹ ಕುಟುಂಬದಲ್ಲಿ ಮದುವೆಯಾಗಲು ಬಯಸುವ ಮಾಡಬೇಕು? ಏಕೆ ಮಹಿಳೆಯರು ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಪೋಷಕರು ಹಿಂಸೆ ಬ್ಲ್ಯಾಕ್ ಮತ್ತು ಹೊಡೆ ಜನರಿಗೆ ಹಣ ಪಾವತಿ ಮಾಡಬೇಕು?
ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ನಾವು ಪದೇ ಪದೇ ಎಚ್ಚರಿಕೆ ಎಲ್ಲಾ ವಧುಗಳು ಟು ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು – ವರನ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ಅಥವಾ ವಿವಾಹದ ನಂತರ ಏನು ಕೇಳುತ್ತದೆ ವೇಳೆ ತೀವ್ರ ಅಪಾಯದ ಸಂಕೇತ ಎಂದು ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳಬಹುದು ದಯವಿಟ್ಟು!
ವೇಗದ ಔಟ್ ಪಡೆಯಿರಿ! ನೀವು ಎಷ್ಟು ದೂರ ಮದುವೆ ಸಿದ್ಧತೆಗಳು ಒಳಗೆ ಯಾವುದೇ! ಇದು ಮದುವೆಯ ದಿನ ಸಹ!
ವೆಡ್ಡಿಂಗ್ ಮುಂದುವರಿಯಬೇಕು ನೀಡಬೇಡಿ.
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ಅವರು ಬೇಡಿಕೆ ಮಾಡಿದ ನಂತರ ಅವರು ಕಡಿಮೆ ಹಣ ಕೇಳುತ್ತೇವೆ ಎಂದು ಹೇಳಲು ಸಹ, ಹೊರಬರಲು ಮತ್ತು ವ್ಯವಸ್ಥೆಯು ತ್ಯಜಿಸಿದ್ದರು. ಅಧ್ಯಯನಗಳು ಅಥವಾ ಅನೇಕ ಮದುವೆಗಳು ಅವರು ಇದ್ದಕ್ಕಿದ್ದಂತೆ ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಕೇಳುವಂತೆ ನಿರ್ಧರಿಸಿದರೆ ಸಹ, ಅವರು ಹಾಗೆ ಮದುವೆಯ ನಂತರ ನಿರೀಕ್ಷಿಸಿ ಎಂದು ತೋರಿಸಲು.

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ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಈ ರೀತಿಯ ನಂಬುವುದಿಲ್ಲ!
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2. ಹಣಕಾಸಿನ ಬೇಡಿಕೆ ಯಾವುದೇ ರೀತಿಯ ವೆಡ್ಡಿಂಗ್ ನಂತರ ಯಾವುದೇ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ಮಾಡಿದರೆ ಸ್ತ್ರೀ ತ್ವರಿತವಾಗಿ ವೈವಾಹಿಕ ಮುಖಪುಟ ಬಿಡಬೇಕು:

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ಆಧುನಿಕ ಕಾಲದಲ್ಲಿ, ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಬೇಡಿಕೆಗಳನ್ನು ಅಲ್ಲ ಮೊದಲು, ವಿವಾಹದ ನಂತರ ಮಾಡಲಾಯಿತು. ಗಂಡನ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ಮದುವೆ ಮೊದಲು ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಬೇಡಿಕೆ ಮಾಡಿದರೆ, ವಧುವಿನ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಮದುವೆಗೆ ಸಮ್ಮತಿಸುವುದಿಲ್ಲ ಎಂದು ಅರ್ಥ. ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ಅವರು ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಬೇಡಿಕೆ ಮಾಡಲು ಮದುವೆಯ ನಂತರ ನಿರೀಕ್ಷಿಸಿ.
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ಅಲ್ಲಿ ಭಾರತದ ವಿಚ್ಛೇದನ ವಿರುದ್ಧ ನಿಷೇಧಿತ, ಮತ್ತು ನಂತರ ಒಂದು ಮದುವೆಯಾದ ಹುಡುಗಿ ‘ಹಾಳಾದ’ ಪರಿಗಣಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ ಏಕೆಂದರೆ – ಮದುವೆಗೆ ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಸುಲಿಗೆ ಮನೋಭಾವ ಇರಬಹುದು ಯಾರು ವಧುಗಳು ಹಲವು ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು, ಮದುವೆಯ ನಂತರ ನಿರಂತರ ಬೆದರಿಕೆ ಮನೋಭಾವ.
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ಆದಾಗ್ಯೂ, ಈ ಅಪಾಯಕಾರಿ. ಹಣ ಮತ್ತು ವಧುವಿನ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಆರ್ಥಿಕ ಸಂಪನ್ಮೂಲಗಳ ಬೇಡಿಕೆ ಕೊನೆಗೊಳ್ಳುವ ಎಂದಿಗೂ, ಮತ್ತು ಪ್ರಚಂಡ ಹಿಂಸೆ ಇಲ್ಲ ಯುವ ವಧು ಮೇಲೆ ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ಆಕೆಯ ಪೋಷಕರು ಹೆಚ್ಚಿನ ನಗದು ಅಥವಾ ವಿತ್ತೀಯ ಪರವಾಗಿದೆ ಪಡೆಯಲು ಬಯಸುವ ಪ್ರತಿ ಬಾರಿ ಉಂಟುಮಾಡಿದ.
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ಉದಾಹರಣೆಗೆ: ಹೆಚ್ಚು ಹಣ ಗಳಿಸಿದ ಇವರು ಎಚ್ಡಿಎಫ್ಸಿ ಬ್ಯಾಂಕ್ (ಭಾರತದ ದೊಡ್ಡ ಬ್ಯಾಂಕಿಂಗ್ ಜಾಲಗಳ ಒಂದು ಇಂದು), ಒಂದು ಮಹಿಳೆ ಮ್ಯಾನೇಜರ್ ಹೆಚ್ಚಿನ ಹಣಕ್ಕೆ ಕಿರುಕುಳ ನೀಡಲಾಯಿತು. ತನ್ನ ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ‘ಮನೆ ಸಾಲ ತೀರಿಸಲು ಮಾಡಿದ, ನಂತರ ಯುನೈಟೆಡ್ ಸ್ಟೇಟ್ಸ್ ತನ್ನ ಭಾವ ವಿಶ್ವವಿದ್ಯಾನಿಲಯದ ಶಿಕ್ಷಣ ಪಾವತಿ ಬಲವಂತವಾಗಿ. ಅವರು ಕಿರುಕುಳ ಮತ್ತು ಚಿತ್ರಹಿಂಸೆ ಎಂದಿಗೂ ಮತ್ತು ಆತ್ಮಹತ್ಯೆ ಸಹಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲಾಗಲಿಲ್ಲ ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ಭಯಾನಕ ದೊರೆತಿದೆ. ಅನೇಕ ಸಂದರ್ಭಗಳಲ್ಲಿ, ಮಕ್ಕಳು ಹುಟ್ಟಿದ ನಂತರವೂ, ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಸುಲಿಗೆ ಮತ್ತು ದೈಹಿಕ ಕಿರುಕುಳ, ಮತ್ತು ಅವರು ಹಣ ತರುವ ನಿಲ್ಲಿಸಿದರೆ ಮಾಡಿದಾಗ ಮಹಿಳೆಯರ ಕೊಲೆ ಪಡೆಯುತ್ತೀರಿ.

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ನೀವು ವಿವಾಹಿತರು ಸಹ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸುರಕ್ಷತೆಗಾಗಿ ತಕ್ಷಣವೇ ಮನೆಗೆ ನೀಡಿ.

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ಪಡೆಯಲು ವಿಷಯಗಳಿಗೆ ನಿರೀಕ್ಷಿಸಿ ಇಲ್ಲ “ಉತ್ತಮ.” ಬಲಾತ್ಕಾರ ಮತ್ತು ಹಿಂಸೆಯ ಆರಂಭಗಳ ಪ್ರಕ್ರಿಯೆ ಒಮ್ಮೆ, ಅವರು ಹೆಚ್ಚು ಹೆಚ್ಚು ಹಸಿವಿನಿಂದ ಪಡೆಯಿರಿ. ಉತ್ತಮ ಸಿಗುವುದಿಲ್ಲ! ಇದು ಮಾತ್ರ ಕೆಟ್ಟದಾಗಿ ಪಡೆಯಲು! ನೀವು ಬೇಗನೆ ಔಟ್ ಹೊಂದಬೇಕು.
ಅಂಶು ಸಿಂಗ್ ಕಥೆ ನೋಡಿ – ಅವರು ಕೇವಲ 45 ದಿನಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ತನ್ನ ಮದುವೆ ನಂತರ ಕೊಲೆ ಮಾಡಲಾಯಿತು. ಚಿಕ್ಕ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ಅವಳು-ಕಾನೂನುಗಳು ತಮ್ಮ ಪಾವತಿಸಲು ಕಾರ್ಯನಿರ್ವಹಿಸುತ್ತಿದೆ ಬಹುರಾಷ್ಟ್ರೀಯ ಸಂಸ್ಥೆಯ (ಲಕ್ಷ) ಸಾಲದ ಭಾರಿ ಪ್ರಮಾಣದ ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಂಡರು.
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3. ವೆಡ್ಡಿಂಗ್ ಲೀಗಲ್ಲಿ ಸಂಪ್ರದಾಯವಾದಿ ಸಮಾರಂಭ ಮೊದಲು ನೋಂದಾಯಿಸಲಾಗಿದೆ ಖಚಿತಪಡಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ:

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ಬಹುತೇಕ ಭಾರತೀಯ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಒಂದು ಅಲಂಕಾರಿಕ ಮತ್ತು ಸಾಂಪ್ರದಾಯಿಕ ಭಾರತೀಯ ಮದುವೆ ಬಯಸುವ ಮತ್ತು ಅಧಿಕೃತ ನೋಂದಣಿ ಇರುವುದಿಲ್ಲ.
ಧಾರ್ಮಿಕ ಸಾಂಪ್ರದಾಯಿಕ ಮದುವೆಗಳು ಭಾರತೀಯ ಕಾನೂನುಗಳು ಬಹಳ ಅಸ್ಪಷ್ಟವಾಗಿತ್ತು. ಅವರು ಪತ್ನಿಯರು ಕೂಡ ಮದುವೆಯಾಗಿ ಎಂದು ಸಾಬೀತು ಕಾರಣ ಕೊಲೆ ವಧುಗಳ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ಹೂಡಲು ವಿಫಲವಾಗಿವೆ ಸಂದರ್ಭಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಇವೆ.
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ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ನಾವು ಬಲವಾಗಿ ಅಧಿಕೃತ ನೋಂದಣಿ ಸಾಂಪ್ರದಾಯಿಕ ಮದುವೆ ಮೊದಲು ಮಾಡಲೇಬೇಕು ಎಂದು ಒತ್ತಿಹೇಳಿದ್ದಾರೆ.
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ನೋಂದಣಿ ಸರಿಯಾಗಿ ಪ್ರಮಾಣಿತ ಸರ್ಕಾರದ ಅಧಿಕೃತ ಮಾಡಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ ಎಂದು ಖಚಿತಪಡಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ. ನೀವು ಅಧಿಕೃತ ಪ್ರಮಾಣಪತ್ರ, ಮುದ್ರೆ ಮತ್ತು ಸಹಿ ಕೆಲವು ಪ್ರತಿಗಳನ್ನು ಹೊಂದಿವೆ, ಮತ್ತು ದಾಖಲೆ ಪ್ರತಿಯನ್ನು ಹಾಗೂ ವಧುವಿನ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಸುರಕ್ಷಿತವಾಗಿ ಎಂದು ಖಚಿತಪಡಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ.
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4. ಬ್ರೈಡ್ ಗಿಫ್ಟ್ ನೀಡಲಾಗಿದೆ ಎವೆರಿಥಿಂಗ್ ನೋಂದಣಿ ಮೊದಲೇ ಮದುವೆ ಮಾಡಿ:
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ಎಲ್ಲಾ ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಕೊಲೆ ಕಾರಣ ಸುಲಿಗೆ, ಬೆದರಿಕೆ ಮತ್ತು ಗ್ರ್ಯಾಂಡ್ ಅಪಹರಣ ಆಗಿದೆ.
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ಹಿಂಸೆ ಪತಿ ಮತ್ತು ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ಆರ್ಥಿಕ ಬೇಡಿಕೆಗಳನ್ನು ಈಡೇರಿಸುವುದು ಇರಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ತನ್ನ ಮತ್ತು ತನ್ನ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಮೇಲೆ ಒತ್ತಡ ಹೇರುವುದನ್ನು ವಧು ಸಮುದಾಯಕ್ಕೆ ಇದೆ. ಆದರೆ ವಧು ಕೊಲೆಯ ಕಾರಣ ಭಾರತದ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಯ ವಿಚ್ಛೇದನಕ್ಕೆ ಶಿಕ್ಷಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ ಹೆಚ್ಚಾಗಿ ಕೊಲೆ ಶಿಕ್ಷೆಗೆ ಸಂಭವ ಕಡಿಮೆ ಏಕೆಂದರೆ ಕಾನೂನುಬದ್ಧವಾಗಿ ಆಗಿದೆ! ವಧು ವಿಚ್ಛೇದನ ಗೆಟ್ಸ್ ವೇಳೆ, ತನ್ನ ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ಮರಳಿ ತನ್ನ ಹಣ ಮತ್ತು ವಸ್ತುಗಳ ಕೇಳಬಹುದು. ಅವರು ಕೊಲೆ ಇದೆ ಆದರೆ, ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಕೊಲೆ ಹಲವು ಸಂದರ್ಭಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಕೂಡ ಸರಿಯಾಗಿ ಪೊಲೀಸ್ ತನಿಖೆ ಎಂದು ತಿಳಿದಿದೆ. ಅವರು ‘ಆತ್ಮಹತ್ಯೆ’ ಅಥವಾ ‘ಅಪಘಾತ’ ಎಂದು ಕಡೆಗಣಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ ಮತ್ತು ಈ ಘಟನೆಯು ಮುಚ್ಚಲ್ಪಟ್ಟಿತು!
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ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಕೊಲೆ ಎರಡು ಸನ್ನಿವೇಶಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಸಂಭವಿಸುತ್ತವೆ. ವಧುವಿನ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಅಂತ್ಯವಿಲ್ಲದ ಬೆದರಿಕೆ ಸುಸ್ತಾಗಿ, ಮತ್ತು ಅಂತಿಮವಾಗಿ ಯಾವುದೇ ಹೆಚ್ಚು ನೀಡುವ ಇರಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಸಾಧ್ಯವಿಲ್ಲ ನಿರ್ಧರಿಸುತ್ತಾನೆ ಸೇರಿದಾಗ ಒಂದು. ನಂತರ ವಧುವಿನ ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ಯಾವುದೇ “ಬಳಕೆ” ಹೊಂದಿದೆ. ಅವರು ತನ್ನ ‘ಕೀಪ್’ ಗೆ-ಕಾನೂನುಗಳು ‘ಪಾವತಿ’ ಮಾಹಿತಿ ನೀಡಿದ್ದೇನೆ ಹಣ ನೋಡಿ ಏಕೆಂದರೆ ಹೆಚ್ಚಾಗಿ ಆಕೆಯ ಪೋಷಕರು ಎರಡೂ ಅವರನ್ನು ಮರಳಿ ಬಯಸುವುದಿಲ್ಲ. ಎಂದು ಪತಿ ಮತ್ತು ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ಆಕೆಯ ಕೊಲ್ಲುತ್ತವೆ ಸಂದರ್ಭದಲ್ಲಿ.
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ಮಧ್ಯಮ ಮತ್ತು ಮೇಲ್ವರ್ಗದ ಮನೆಗಳಲ್ಲಿ, ಪತಿ ಪತಿ ಮತ್ತು ಸಂಬಂಧಿಕರು ಎಲ್ಲಾ ಹಣವನ್ನು ನಿರಂತರವಾಗಿ ಪಡೆಯುತ್ತಿದ್ದೀರಿ ಎಂದು ಖಚಿತಪಡಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಮತ್ತು ಪರಿಪೂರ್ಣ ಮಾರ್ಗ ಹೊರಡುವ ಮುಂಚೆ ಅಲ್ಲಿ ವಧುವಿನ ತಂದೆ ಅವರನ್ನು ಮರಳಿ ಪಡೆಯಲು ಮತ್ತು ಅವಳ ವಿಚ್ಛೇದನ ಪಡೆಯಲು ಸಹಾಯ, ವಧು ಕೊಲ್ಲುವ ಇರಬಹುದು ಅವರು ಅವಳ ರಿಂದ ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳಬಹುದು ಸರಕು. ಅವರು ವಧುವನ್ನು ಮರಳಿ ತಮ್ಮ ಹಣ ಪಡೆಯಲು ಪ್ರಯತ್ನಿಸಿ ಸುಮಾರು ಎಂಬುದನ್ನು ಖಚಿತಪಡಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ ಈ ರೀತಿ!
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ಇದಕ್ಕೆ ತಡೆಯೊಡ್ಡಿ ಉತ್ತಮ ರೀತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ವಧುವಿನ ಕುಟುಂಬ ವಧು ಗೆ ‘ಉಡುಗೊರೆ’ ಎಂದು ನೀಡುವ ಎಲ್ಲವನ್ನೂ ನೊಂದಣಿ ಆಗಿದೆ. ಅದು ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ನೀಡಲು ಅಥವಾ ಪಡೆಯಲು ಕಾನೂನುಬಾಹಿರ. ಆದರೆ ವಧುವಿನ ಪೋಷಕರು ಆಕೆಯ ಏಕೈಕ ಆಸ್ತಿ ಇವು ತನ್ನ ಮದುವೆ, ಹಣ ರಲ್ಲಿ ಉಡುಗೊರೆಯಾಗಿ ತನ್ನ ವಸ್ತುಗಳನ್ನು ಮಾಡಬಹುದು. ವಧುಗಳು ಬೇಕಾಗಿದ್ದಾರೆ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ತಮ್ಮನ್ನು ರಕ್ಷಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಈ ಕಾನೂನು ಲಾಭ ಮಾಡಬೇಕು. ಆ ರೀತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ, ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಹಿಂಸೆ ಮತ್ತು ಬೆದರಿಕೆಗಳ ಮದುವೆಯ ನಂತರ ಆರಂಭಿಸಲು ಸಹ ವಧು ಸುರಕ್ಷಿತವಾಗಿ ಮದುವೆ ಬಿಟ್ಟು ತಾನು ಅಥವಾ ತನ್ನ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಹಿಂದೆ ನೀಡಿದ್ದ ಎಲ್ಲಾ ಉಡುಗೊರೆಗಳನ್ನು ಪಡೆಯಲು ಖಚಿತವಾಗಿ ಮಾಡಬಹುದು.

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ಇದು ಬಲತ್ಕಾರಿಸಿ ಮತ್ತು ಕೊಲ್ಲಲು ಕಡಿಮೆ ವಲ್ಕ್ ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ಮಾಡುತ್ತದೆ. ಹಣ ಅವರ ಉದ್ದೇಶವು, ಹಣದ ಮೇಲೆ ತಮ್ಮ ಕೈಗಳನ್ನು ಪಡೆಯಲು ಅವುಗಳನ್ನು ತಡೆಯುವ ಕಾನೂನು ಬಿಗಿಯಾದ ವ್ಯವಸ್ಥೆ ಕಾರಣ – ಅವರಿಗೆ ಯಾವುದೇ ಮದುವೆ ಮುಂದುವರಿಸಲು ಬಯಸಿದಲ್ಲಿ ನೀಡುತ್ತದೆ.
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ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ಮದುವೆ ಮೊದಲು, ವಧುವಿನ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಅವರು ಉಡುಗೊರೆಯಾಗಿ ನೀಡಿದ ಎಲ್ಲಾ ವಿಷಯಗಳನ್ನು ಕಾನೂನು ದಸ್ತಾವೇಜನ್ನು ಒತ್ತಾಯ ಮಾಡಬೇಕು.
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ಮಹಿಳೆ ಬಿಟ್ಟು ನಾವು ಕೂಡ ಬಲವಾಗಿ ನಿಮ್ಮ ವಕೀಲರು ನೋಡಿ ಕಲಿಯಬೇಕು, ಮತ್ತು ವಧು ಮತ್ತು ಪತಿ ಎರಡೂ ನೋಂದಾಯಿಸಲಾಗಿದೆ ಎಲ್ಲವೂ ಮಹಿಳೆ ಅಥವಾ ಅವಳ ಹೆತ್ತವರ ಸಂಬಂಧ ಮುರಿಯಲು ಅಥವಾ ಮಾಡಬೇಕು ಮರಳಿದರು ಮಾಡಬೇಕು ಮದುವೆಯ ಮುಂಚೆ ಒಂದು ಷರತ್ತು ಸೈನ್ ಹೊಂದಿರುತ್ತದೆ ಮದುವೆ ಅಥವಾ ಮರಣ. ಷರತ್ತು, ನೀವು ನೊಂದಾಯಿತ ಎಂದು ನೀವು ಪರಿಗಣಿಸಬೇಕು ಎಂದು ಎಲ್ಲವನ್ನೂ ಸೂಚಿಸುತ್ತದೆ ಮಾಡಬೇಕು. ಮದುವೆಯ ಸಂದರ್ಭದಲ್ಲಿ ಮತ್ತು ನಂತರ, ಮೌಲ್ಯ ಮುಂಚೆ ಪ್ರತಿಭಾಶಾಲಿ ಎಲ್ಲವೂ ಸವಿವರ ದಾಖಲೆಗಳನ್ನು ಮತ್ತು ಬಿಲ್ಲುಗಳನ್ನು ಇರಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು. ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ತಮ್ಮ ಹೆಣ್ಣುಮಕ್ಕಳ ಸಹಿಯನ್ನು ಸಮ್ಮತಿ ಪುರಾವೆ ಪ್ರತಿ ಬಾರಿ ಪರಿಗಣಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ, ಮತ್ತು ಪಟ್ಟಿಯು ತನ್ನ ಪೋಷಕರೊಂದಿಗೆ ಇರಿಸಲಾಗುವುದು ಖಚಿತಪಡಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ ಮಾಡಬೇಕು.
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ಪತಿಯ ಕುಟುಂಬ ನೋಂದಾಯಿತ ಉಡುಗೊರೆಗಳನ್ನು ಮತ್ತು ಪ್ರತಿಫಲದ ಷರತ್ತು ಕಾನೂನು ದಸ್ತಾವೇಜನ್ನು ಒಪ್ಪಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಇಷ್ಟವಿರಲಿಲ್ಲ ವೇಳೆ, ನಂತರ ವಧುವಿನ ಕುಟುಂಬ ತಮ್ಮ ಉದ್ದೇಶಗಳ ಅನುಮಾನಾಸ್ಪದವಾಗಿ ಕಾರಣಗಳಿವೆ ಹೊಂದಿದೆ. ದಯವಿಟ್ಟು ಈ ಮದುವೆ ಮುಂದುವರಿಸಲು ಇಲ್ಲ.
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5. ಎ ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಡಿಮ್ಯಾಂಡ್ ಮಾಡುವ ಕುಟುಂಬ ವಿರುದ್ಧ ಪೊಲೀಸ್ ವರದಿ ಫೈಲ್:
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ಒಂದು ಸಂಭಾವ್ಯ ಪತಿಯ ಕುಟುಂಬ ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಬೇಡಿಕೆ ಮಾಡುತ್ತದೆ ವೇಳೆ, ಆ ಮದುವೆ ವ್ಯವಸ್ಥೆಗೆ ಸಮ್ಮತಿಸುವುದಿಲ್ಲ. ಆದರೆ ಪೊಲೀಸರು ಅವರನ್ನು ವಿರುದ್ಧ ವರದಿಯನ್ನು ಸಲ್ಲಿಸಿ, ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ಅವರು ಮತ್ತೊಂದು ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಕಿರುಕುಳ ಮೊದಲು ಎರಡು ಬಾರಿ ಚಿಂತಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ.
ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಕೇಳುತ್ತಿದೆ ಕಾನೂನು ಅಡಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಶಿಕ್ಷಾರ್ಹ ಮತ್ತು ನೀವು 2 ಜೈಲಿನಲ್ಲಿದ್ದ ವರ್ಷ 10,000 / ಉತ್ತಮ ಪಡೆಯುವುದು –
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ಈ ಭಯಾನಕ ಕೊಳಕು ಮತ್ತು ಕ್ರೂರ ಸಂಪ್ರದಾಯವನ್ನು ಅಂತ್ಯಗೊಳಿಸಲು ನಮ್ಮ ಹೋರಾಟ ಒಂದು ಭಾಗ! ವರದಕ್ಷಿಣೆ ಅಪರಾಧಿಗಳ ವಿರುದ್ಧ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಕ್ರಿಯೆಯನ್ನು ಭಾರತದ ಅನೇಕ ಯುವ ಮಹಿಳೆಯರ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು ಸಂರಕ್ಷಿಸುತ್ತದೆ.

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अपने आप को कैसे दहेज हफ्ता वसूली और हिंसा से बचाने के लिए

 

 

यह लेख इस साइट से लिया गया है:

http://genderbytes.wordpress.com/2011/12/05/advice-on-how-to-protect-yourself-from-dowry-extortion-and-violence/

साइट अंग्रेजी में है. मैं माफी माँगता हूँ. मैं इंटरनेट के साथ इस लेख का अनुवाद.

 

 

 

दिसंबर और जनवरी भारत में शादी का मौसम है. 100,000 से अधिक भारत में दहेज के लिए हर साल की हत्या महिलाएं हैं. हम दुल्हनों और उनके परिवारों के लिए एक सलाहकार के बाद कर रहे हैं. दहेज जबरन वसूली, हिंसा और हत्या से अपने आप को बचाने के.
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1. कहाँ वित्तीय मांग की किसी भी तरह नकद में किया जाता है किसी भी शादी की व्यवस्था से बाहर वापस

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एक उपहार कुछ प्यार के साथ दी गई है, इसके लिए कभी नहीं पूछा है.
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लेकिन अगर दूल्हे और उनके परिवारों को निर्दिष्ट कितना पैसा वे शादी के लिए करना चाहते हैं, क्या प्रकार के उपहार (घरों, कारों, नौकरी, पदोन्नति) और वे शादी फोन बंद अगर इन ‘उपहार’ उन्हें नहीं दिया जाता है धमकी, फिर शुरू यह उपहार देने के नहीं है. यह ब्लैकमेल है! यह गैरकानूनी है! यह जबरन वसूली की है! यह एक आपराधिक कृत्य है.
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भारतीय महिलाओं और उनके परिवारों के ऐसे परिवारों की नैतिकता और सामाजिक मूल्यों के बारे में सोचना चाहिए. अगर वे जबरन वसूली अपराधी हैं, और वे क्या करने में सक्षम है? हत्या? शायद. भारत में युवा दुल्हन के दहेज हत्या के हजारों बताते हैं कि इन लालची परिवारों के लिए शादी के बाद धन उगाही जारी है. वे दुल्हन पर भयानक हिंसा दण्ड, और युवा महिलाओं के अंत में हजारों लोगों की हत्या कर रहे हैं!
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किसी भी महिला के लिए एक ऐसे परिवार में शादी करने के लिए क्यों होनी चाहिए? महिलाओं और उनके माता पिता के लोग हैं, जो ब्लैकमेल और हिंसा दण्ड देना पैसे क्यों देना चाहिए?
दूल्हे के परिवार से पहले के दौरान या शादी के बाद कुछ भी करने के लिए पूछता है, यह अत्यधिक खतरे की निशानी के रूप में ले – इसलिए हम बार – बार सभी दुल्हनों के लिए हो सकता है और उनके परिवारों को चेतावनी दी है
तेजी से बाहर जाओ! कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ता कि आप शादी की तैयारी में कितनी दूर हैं! यहां तक ​​कि अगर यह शादी का दिन है!
शादी के साथ आगे बढ़ना नहीं है.
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एक बार वे एक मांग बना दिया है, बाहर निकलना और व्यवस्था का परित्याग, भले ही वे आपको बताना है कि वे कम पैसे के लिए पूछना होगा. स्टडीज या कई शादियों बताते हैं कि भले ही वे अचानक दहेज के लिए पूछने के लिए नहीं तय है, वे ऐसा करने के लिए शादी के बाद जब तक इंतजार.

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विश्वास मत परिवारों के इन प्रकार!
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2. स्त्री जल्दी वैवाहिक घर से निकलते हैं तो वित्तीय मांग की किसी भी तरह की शादी के बाद किसी भी समय किया जाता है:

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आधुनिक समय में, दहेज की मांग शादी के बाद किया जा रहा है बना रहे हैं, उससे पहले नहीं. पति के परिवारों को पता है कि अगर वे शादी से पहले दहेज की मांग करते हैं, दुल्हन के परिवार शादी के लिए सहमत नहीं हो सकता है. तो वे शादी के बाद जब तक प्रतीक्षा करने के लिए दहेज की मांग कर.
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क्योंकि भारत में तलाक के खिलाफ एक वर्जित है, और के बाद से एक लड़की की शादी ‘खराब’ माना जाता है – कई परिवारों दुल्हन जो शादी से पहले दहेज की फिरौती के लिए नहीं दे सकता है, शादी के बाद निरंतर ब्लैकमेल में दे.
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हालांकि, यह खतरनाक है. पैसे और दुल्हन के परिवार से वित्तीय संसाधनों के लिए मांग को समाप्त, कभी नहीं है और वहाँ जबरदस्त हिंसा युवा दुल्हन पर हर बार ससुराल वालों उसे अपने माता – पिता से अधिक नकद या मौद्रिक एहसान पाने के लिए चाहते हैं प्रवृत्त.
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उदाहरण: एचडीएफसी बैंक (भारत का सबसे बड़ा बैंकिंग नेटवर्क में से एक आज), जो ज्यादा पैसा कमा रहा था की एक महिला प्रबंधक अधिक से अधिक पैसे के लिए परेशान किया गया था. वह उसे ‘ससुराल में घर के लिए ऋण का भुगतान किया गया था, और फिर उसके बहनोई संयुक्त राज्य अमेरिका में विश्वविद्यालय शिक्षा के लिए भुगतान करने के लिए मजबूर है. यह इतना भयानक है वह शोषण और अत्याचार अब और सहन नहीं कर सकता आत्महत्या कर ली. कई मामलों में, के बाद भी बच्चों को पैदा कर रहे हैं, दहेज जबरन वसूली और शारीरिक शोषण जारी है, और जब वे पैसे में लाने रोक महिलाओं की हत्या कर दी मिलता है.

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तो भी अगर आप शादी कर रहे हैं, उस घर को अपनी सुरक्षा के लिए कृपया तुरंत छोड़.

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बातें करने के लिए मत इंतजार जबरन वसूली और हिंसा शुरू करने की प्रक्रिया में एक बार “बेहतर है.”, वे केवल अधिक से अधिक के लिए भूख लगी हो. यह बेहतर नहीं मिलेगा! यह केवल बदतर हो जाएगी! आप जल्दी ही बाहर निकलना चाहिए.
अंशु सिंह की कहानी देखने के लिए वह उसकी शादी के बाद सिर्फ 45 दिन हत्या कर दी गई थी. है कि कम समय में वह बाहर ले (लाख) से ऋण में भारी मात्रा में बहुराष्ट्रीय कंपनी के साथ वह काम कर रहा था कि उसे ससुराल में भुगतान.
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3. यकीन है कि शादी कानूनी तौर पर पारंपरिक समारोह से पहले पंजीकृत है:

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अधिकांश भारतीय परिवारों को एक कल्पना और पारंपरिक भारतीय शादी करना चाहते हैं और एक सरकारी पंजीकरण पाने के लिए नहीं है.
धार्मिक पारंपरिक विवाह पर भारतीय कानून बहुत अस्पष्ट हैं. वहाँ हालात किया गया है, जहां हत्या कर दी दुल्हन के परिवारों के आरोप फाइल करने में असमर्थ किया गया है क्योंकि वे नहीं साबित हो सकता है कि आपस में भी शादी कर रहे थे.
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इसलिए हम दृढ़ता से जोर है कि एक सरकारी पंजीकरण पारंपरिक शादी के पहले किया जाना चाहिए होगा.
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सुनिश्चित करें कि पंजीकरण एक अच्छी तरह से प्रमाणित सरकारी अधिकारी द्वारा किया जाता है. सुनिश्चित करें कि आप सरकारी प्रमाण पत्र, मुहर लगी और हस्ताक्षर की कुछ प्रतियां है, और इस दस्तावेज की एक प्रति दुल्हन के परिवार के रूप में अच्छी तरह से सुरक्षित करने में है कि.
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4. क्या एक पूर्व मंगल दुल्हन को उपहार में दिया गया सब कुछ रजिस्टर:
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सब दहेज हत्या के लिए कारण जबरन वसूली, ब्लैकमेल, और भव्य चोरी है.
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हिंसा दुल्हन पर प्रवृत्त है उसे और उसके परिवार पर दबाव डालने के लिए पति और ससुराल वालों की वित्तीय मांगों को पूरा रखने के लिए. लेकिन कारण दुल्हन हत्या कर दी है क्योंकि कानूनी तौर पर भारत में एक व्यक्ति को कम से तलाक के लिए दंडित करने के लिए हत्या के लिए दंडित होने की संभावना है! यदि दुल्हन एक तलाक हो जाता है, वह उसे उसके ससुराल से पैसे और माल वापस मांग सकते हैं. लेकिन अगर वह हत्या कर दी है, ससुराल वालों को पता है कि दहेज हत्या के ज्यादातर मामलों में पुलिस द्वारा भी ठीक से जांच नहीं कर रहे हैं. वे ‘आत्महत्या’ या ‘दुर्घटना’ के रूप में की अनदेखी कर रहे हैं और मामले को बंद कर दिया है!
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दहेज हत्याएं दो स्थितियों में होता है. एक, जब दुल्हन के परिवार को कभी खत्म नहीं ब्लैकमेल के थक जाता है, और अंत में यह फैसला किसी भी अधिक नहीं दे रख सकते हैं. तब दुल्हन ससुराल नहीं “का उपयोग” की है. अक्सर उसके माता पिता उसे नहीं करना चाहता वापस या तो क्योंकि वे पैसे के वे उसे ‘रख’ ससुराल ‘भुगतान’ के रूप में दिया है. यही कारण है कि जब पति और ससुराल वालों ने उसे मार जाएगा.
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मध्यम और उच्च वर्ग के घरों में, दुल्हन के माता पिता उसे जहां वापस ले सकता है और उसे एक तलाक पाने में मदद, दुल्हन की हत्या से पहले वह छोड़ देता है उसके पति को सही करने के लिए सुनिश्चित करें कि उसके पति और ससुराल वालों के लिए सारे पैसे रखने के लिए मिलता है और जिस तरह से है माल वे उसके पास से लिया है. इस तरह वे भी यकीन है कि दुल्हन के आसपास करने के लिए उसे पैसे वापस लाने की कोशिश नहीं है!
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करने के लिए हो रहा से इस को रोकने का सबसे अच्छा तरीका करने के लिए सब कुछ है कि दुल्हन के परिवार दुल्हन को ‘उपहार’ के रूप में देता है रजिस्टर है. यह देने के लिए या दहेज को ले अवैध है. लेकिन एक दुल्हन के माता – पिता उसकी शादी है, जो उसे एकमात्र संपत्ति के लिए नकदी में उसकी बातों उपहार कर सकते हैं. दुल्हन के परिवार को इस कानून का लाभ उठाने के लिए स्वयं की रक्षा करना चाहिए. इस तरह से, यहां तक ​​कि अगर दहेज हिंसा और धमकियों शादी के बाद शुरू दुल्हन सुरक्षित शादी के जाने सकते हैं और सुनिश्चित करें कि वह या उसके परिवार को वापस सभी उसे दिया उपहार प्राप्त.

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यह भी दूल्हे और उनके परिवारों को कम करने के लिए उगाही और मारने की संभावना बनाता है. चूंकि पैसा उनके मकसद, एक कानूनी रूप से तंग व्यवस्था है कि उन्हें पैसे पर अपने हाथ हो रही से रोकता है – देता है उन्हें कोई शादी के साथ जारी रखना चाहते हैं.
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तो शादी से पहले दुल्हन के परिवार सभी बातें वे तोहफे के रूप में दिया है की एक कानूनी दस्तावेज पर जोर होगा.
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हम भी दृढ़ता से अनुशंसा है कि आप अपने वकीलों से सलाह चाहते हैं, और दोनों दुल्हन और पति को शादी से पहले एक खंड है कि सब कुछ है कि पंजीकृत है महिला या उसके माता पिता शादी को तोड़ने या चाहिए लौट जाना चाहिए पर हस्ताक्षर अगर औरत पत्ते शादी या मर जाता है. खंड में, आप सब कुछ है कि आप के रूप में पंजीकृत संबंध होगा संकेत देना चाहिए. विस्तृत और पहले मान भेंट सब कुछ के रिकॉर्ड बिल के दौरान और शादी के बाद, रखें. परिवार को यकीन है कि उनकी बेटियों को ‘हस्ताक्षर हर बार स्वीकृति का सबूत माना जाता है, और उसके माता पिता के साथ सूची में रखा है बनाना चाहिए.
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यदि पति के परिवार पंजीकृत उपहार और अपनी वापसी के खंड के कानूनी दस्तावेज के लिए सहमत करने के लिए तैयार नहीं है, तो दुल्हन के परिवार हर उनके इरादों पर शक होने के कारण है. कृपया इस शादी के साथ आगे बढ़ना नहीं है.
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5. परिवार है कि दहेज की मांग करता है के खिलाफ एक पुलिस रिपोर्ट फाइल:
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यदि एक भावी पति के परिवार ने दहेज की मांग करता है, कि शादी की व्यवस्था करने के लिए सहमत नहीं हूँ. लेकिन यह भी पुलिस के साथ उनके खिलाफ रिपोर्ट दर्ज करने के लिए, तो वे एक और परिवार को परेशान करने से पहले दो बार सोचना होगा.
दहेज के लिए पूछना कानून के तहत दंडनीय है और आप 2 साल कारावास की और 10,000 / के ठीक प्राप्त कर सकते हैं –
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यह बहुत बदसूरत है, और क्रूर परंपरा को समाप्त करने के लिए हमारी लड़ाई का एक हिस्सा बनो! दहेज अपराधियों के खिलाफ कार्रवाई भारत में कई युवा महिलाओं के जीवन की रक्षा करेगा.

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કેવી રીતે જાતે દહેજ ગેરવસૂલી અને હિંસા પ્રતિ સુરક્ષિત કરવા માટે

 

 

આ લેખ આ સાઇટ પરથી લેવામાં આવ્યો હતો:

http://genderbytes.wordpress.com/2011/12/05/advice-on-how-to-protect-yourself-from-dowry-extortion-and-violence/

આ સાઇટ ઇંગલિશ છે. હું દિલગીર છીએ. હું ઇન્ટરનેટ સાથે આ લેખ અનુવાદિત.

 

 

 

 

2011, 5 ડિસેમ્બર

 

 

ડિસેમ્બર અને જાન્યુઆરી ભારતમાં લગ્ન ઋતુ છે. ત્યાં 1,00,000 કરતાં વધુ ભારતમાં દહેજ માટે દર વર્ષે હત્યા સ્ત્રીઓ છે. અમે વર અને તેમના પરિવારો માટે સલાહકારી પોસ્ટ બનાવે છે. તમે પોતે જ દહેજ ગેરવસૂલી હિંસા, અને હત્યા રક્ષણ કરો.

 

 

 

1. કોઈપણ વેડિંગ ગોઠવણી @ label ક્યાંથી નાણાકીય ડિમાન્ડ કોઈપણ પ્રકારનું કેશ માં સામગ્રી છે આઉટ ઓફ બેકઅપ:

એ ભેટ પ્રેમ સાથે આપવામાં કંઈક છે, તેને માટે ક્યારેય કહેવામાં આવે છે.

પરંતુ જો વધુની અને તેમના પરિવારો સ્પષ્ટ કેટલી મની તેઓ લગ્ન કરવા માંગો છો, પ્રકારના શું ભેટ (ગૃહો, કાર, જોબ્સ, પ્રમોશન) અને તેઓ લગ્ન કૉલ બોલ જો આ ‘ભેટ’ તેમને ન આપવામાં આવે છે ધમકી આપી, પછી શરૂ આ ભેટ આપવાની નથી. આ બ્લેક મેઇલ છે! તે ગેરકાયદેસર છે! તે ગેરવસૂલી છે! તે ગુનાહિત કૃત્ય છે.

ભારતીય મહિલાઓ અને તેમના પરિવારો આવા પરિવારો અને નૈતિકતા સામાજિક મૂલ્યો વિશે વિચારો જ જોઈએ. જો તેઓ ગેરવસૂલી ગુનેગારો છે, બીજું શું તેઓ માટે સક્ષમ? હત્યા? કદાચ. ભારતમાં યુવાન વર ના દહેજ હત્યાનો હજારો દર્શાવે છે કે આ લોભી પરિવારો માટે લગ્ન પછી પૈસા પડાવી લેવું ચાલુ રાખો. તેઓ વર પર ભયંકર હિંસા પહોંચાડશે, અને યુવાન સ્ત્રીઓ આખરે હજારો હત્યા કરવામાં આવે છે!

કોઈપણ સ્ત્રી માટે આવા પરિવારમાં લગ્ન શા માટે કરવા માંગો છો જોઈએ? મહિલાઓ અને તેમના માતા – પિતા જે લોકો ધમકીથી કઢાવેલી રકમ અને હિંસા લાદવું શા માટે પૈસા ચૂકવવા જોઈએ?
જો આ વરરાજા કુટુંબ પહેલાં કંઈપણ માટે તે દરમિયાન અથવા તે લગ્ન પછી, પૂછે છે તે આત્યંતિક ભય એક સંકેત તરીકે લેવા કૃપા કરીને -! તેથી અમે વારંવાર તમામ વર-થી-હોઈ શકે છે અને તેમના પરિવારો માટે ચેતવે છે
બહાર ઝડપી મેળવો! કોઈ બાબત લગ્ન તૈયારીઓ માં અત્યાર સુધી તમે કેવી રીતે છે? જો તે લગ્ન દિવસ છે!
લગ્ન સાથે આગળ ધપાવો નથી.

એકવાર તેઓ એક માંગ કરી દીધા છે, વિચાર અને વ્યવસ્થા છોડી હોય તો પણ, તેઓ તમને જણાવશે કે તેઓ ઓછા પૈસા માટે પૂછશે. સ્ટડીઝ અથવા ઘણા લગ્નો દર્શાવે છે કે જો તેઓ અચાનક માટે દહેજ માટે પૂછો નક્કી, તેઓ આવું લગ્ન થયા ત્યાં સુધી રાહ જુઓ.

 
નહીં વિશ્વાસ નહીં! પરિવારો આ પ્રકારનાં!

 

 
2. આ સ્ત્રી ઝડપથી આ વૈવાહિક ઘર છોડી દો જો નાણાકીય ડિમાન્ડ કોઈપણ પ્રકારનું ધ વેડિંગ પછી કોઈપણ ભાવ સામગ્રી છે જ જોઈએ:

આધુનિક સમયમાં, દહેજ માગ લગ્ન બાદ કરવામાં આવે છે, નથી તે પહેલાં. પતિના પરિવારો ખ્યાલ છે કે જો તેઓ લગ્ન પહેલાં દહેજ માંગ કરી છે, જે કન્યા કુટુંબ લગ્ન માટે સંમત ન શકે. જેથી તેઓ લગ્ન પછી ત્યાં સુધી રાહ જુઓ માટે દહેજ માંગ કરો.

કારણ કે ત્યાં ભારત માં છૂટાછેડા સામે વર્જિત છે, અને કારણ કે લગ્ન છોકરી ‘બગડેલું’ ગણવામાં આવે છે – વર કોણ માં લગ્ન પહેલાં દહેજ ગેરવસૂલી ન આપી શકે છે ઘણા પરિવારો, લગ્ન પછી લગાતાર બ્લેક મેઇલ કરવા માટે આપે છે.

જો કે, આ ખતરનાક છે. મની અને કન્યા પરિવાર પાસેથી નાણાકીય સ્ત્રોતો માટે માંગ અંત ક્યારેય છે અને ત્યાં જબરદસ્ત હિંસા છે યુવાન કન્યા પર દરેક સમયે ઇન કાયદાઓ તેમના માતા – પિતા પાસેથી વધુ રોકડ અથવા નાણાકીય તરફેણ વિચાર કરવા માંગો છો લાદવામાં આવી હતી.

ઉદાહરણ: એચડીએફસી (ભારતની સૌથી મોટી બેંકિંગ નેટવર્કો એક આજે) બેંક, જે ખૂબ પૈસા કમાતા હતી એક મહિલા વ્યવસ્થાપક વધુ અને વધુ પૈસા માટે સતાવ્યા હતા. તેણી માટે આ બોલ તેના ‘માં કાયદા ઘર લોન્સ ચૂકવણી કરવામાં આવી હતી અને પછી તેમના ભાઇ ઈન યુનાઈટેડ સ્ટેટ્સ ઑફ યુનિવર્સિટી શિક્ષણ માટે ચૂકવણી કરવાની ફરજ પડી હતી. તે આવું ભયાનક મળ્યું તે દુરુપયોગ અને ત્રાસ હવે અને આત્મહત્યા ન સહન કરી શકે છે. ઘણા કિસ્સાઓમાં, તે પછી પણ બાળકો જન્મે છે, તો દહેજ ગેરવસૂલી અને ભૌતિક દુરુપયોગ ચાલુ રહે છે, અને સ્ત્રીઓ જ્યારે તેઓ પૈસા લાવી બંધ હત્યા છે.

સો જો તમે લગ્ન છે, કે ઘરઆપની સલામતી માટે તરત જ રજા કરો.

શું વસ્તુઓ માટે રાહ જોવી ન મેળવવા ગેરવસૂલી અને હિંસા થાય પ્રક્રિયા એકવાર “વધુ સારા.” તેઓ માત્ર વધુ અને વધુ માટે અધીરા છે. તે વધુ સારી રીતે મળશે નહીં! તે માત્ર ત્યારે જ ખરાબ વિચાર કરશે! તમે જલ્દી કરવાની જરૂર છે.
Anshu સિંઘનો સ્ટોરી જુઓ – તેણી લગ્ન બાદ માત્ર 45 દિવસના હત્યા કરવામાં આવી હતી. કે થોડા સમય માં તે બહાર હતા (લાખ) એ બહુરાષ્ટ્રીય કંપની તેણી સાથે કામ તેના સાસરિયાઓ પગાર માંથી લોન વિશાળ માત્રામાં.

 

 

3. શ્યોર ધ વેડિંગ કાયદાકીય રીતે પરંપરાગત સમારોહ પહેલાં રજીસ્ટર થયેલ છે તેની ખાતરી કરો:

મોટાભાગના ભારતીય પરિવારોમાં ફેન્સી અને પરંપરાગત ભારતીય લગ્ન કરવા માંગો છો અને તમે કોઇ સત્તાવાર નોંધણી વિચાર નથી.
ધાર્મિક પરંપરાગત લગ્ન પર ભારતીય કાયદા ખૂબ જ અસ્પષ્ટ છે. ત્યાં પરિસ્થિતિઓ કરવામાં આવી છે જ્યાં હત્યા વર ના પરિવારો ખર્ચ ફાઈલ કરવામાં અક્ષમ છે કારણ કે તેઓ નથી સાબિત કરી શક્યા હતા કે પત્નીઓને પણ લગ્ન કર્યા હતા.

તેથી અમે ભારપૂર્વક પર ભાર મૂકે છે કે જે સત્તાવાર નોંધણી પરંપરાગત લગ્ન પહેલા કરવું જોઇએ કરશે.

ખાતરી કરો કે જે રજીસ્ટ્રેશન યોગ્ય રીતે પ્રમાણિત સરકારી અધિકારી દ્વારા કરવામાં આવે છે તેની ખાતરી કરો. ખાતરી કરો કે તમે સરકારી પ્રમાણપત્ર, બીબીમાં હસ્તાક્ષર અને થોડા નકલો હોય છે, અને આ દસ્તાવેજની નકલ જે કન્યા પરિવારના તેમજ સુરક્ષિત રાખવાનો છે કે તેની ખાતરી કરો.

 

 

4. એક પૂર્વ વૈવાહિક શું કરવા આ સ્ત્રી કરવા માટે ગિફ્ટ માં આપેલ છે બધું રજીસ્ટર કરો:

બધા દહેજ હત્યા કારણ ગેરવસૂલી બ્લેક મેઇલ, અને ગ્રાન્ડ ચોરી છે.
હિંસા કન્યા પર લાદવામાં આવે છે અને તેના કુટુંબ પર દબાણ કરવા માટે પતિ અને ઇન કાયદાના નાણાકીય માંગ સંતોષવાનો રાખો. પરંતુ કારણ કન્યા હત્યા છે કારણ કે કાયદેસર રીતે ભારતમાં એક વ્યક્તિ ઓછી હત્યા કરતાં છૂટાછેડા માટે સજા માટે સજા થાય તેવી સંભાવના છે! જો કન્યા છૂટાછેડા નહીં, તેણીએ તેના ઈન કાયદાઓ તેમના પૈસા અને માલ પાછા માગ કરી શકે છે. પરંતુ જો તે ખૂન છે, માં કાયદા ખબર છે કે દહેજ હત્યા મોટા ભાગના કિસ્સાઓમાં પણ યોગ્ય રીતે પોલીસ દ્વારા તપાસ ન કરવામાં આવે છે. તેઓ ‘આત્મહત્યા’ અથવા ‘અકસ્માત’ તરીકે અવગણવામાં આવે છે અને આ કેસ બંધ છે!
દહેજ હત્યા બે પરિસ્થિતિઓમાં થાય છે. એક, જ્યારે કન્યા કુટુંબ તેનો અંત ક્યારે બ્લેક મેઇલ ઓફ થાકી નહીં, અને છેલ્લે નક્કી તે કોઇપણ વધુ આપવાનું ચાલુ ન રાખી શકો. પછી કન્યા કોઈ ઇન કાયદા “ઉપયોગ” છે. ઘણી વાર પોતાના માતા – પિતા તેમના ન માંગતા પાછા નથી કારણ કે તેઓ પૈસા તેઓ તેના ‘રાખવા’ માં કાયદા ‘ચુકવણી’ તરીકે આપી છે જુઓ. કે જ્યારે પતિ અને સાસરિયાઓ તેના મારી નાખશે.

મધ્યમ અને ઉપલા વર્ગ ઘરો માં કન્યા માતા – પિતા પોતાના જ્યાં લઇ બોલ શકે મદદ તેણીને છૂટાછેડા મેળવવા માટે, કન્યા મારતા પહેલા તે નહીં તેના પતિને સંપૂર્ણ ખાતરી કરવા માટે કે જે તેના પતિ અને સાસરિયાઓ બધી મની રાખવા વિચાર અને રીત છે માલ તેઓ તેના પરથી લેવામાં કર્યો છે. આ રીતે તેઓ પણ ખાતરી કરો કે કન્યા આસપાસ માટે તેના પૈસા પાછા મેળવવા પ્રયાસ ન હોય તો!

શ્રેષ્ઠ આમ થતું અટકાવવા માર્ગ બધું છે કે જે કન્યા કુટુંબ કન્યા માટે ‘ભેટ’ તરીકે આપે રજીસ્ટર છે. તે આપવા અથવા દહેજ લઇ ગેરકાયદેસર છે. પરંતુ એક કન્યા માતા – પિતા રોકડ તેમના લગ્ન, જે તેણીની સંપૂર્ણ મિલકત છે માટે તેના વસ્તુઓ ભેટ કરી શકો છો. બ્રાઇડ્સ કુટુંબો આ કાયદો લાભ લેવા માટે પોતાની જાતને સુરક્ષિત હોવું જ જોઈએ. તે રીતે, જો દહેજ હિંસા અને ધમકીઓ લગ્ન બાદ શરૂ કન્યા સુરક્ષિત રીતે લગ્ન છોડી શકો છો અને ખાતરી કરો કે તે અથવા તેણીના કુટુંબ પાછા બધા તેના માટે આપવામાં ભેટ વિચાર કરો.

તે પણ વધુની અને તેમના પરિવારો ઓછી પડાવી લેવું અને મારવા શક્યતા બનાવે છે. ત્યારથી મની તેમના ચાલક, એક કાયદેસર ચુસ્ત વ્યવસ્થા કે તેમને નાણા પર તેમના હાથ મેળવવાની અટકાવે છે – આપે છે તેમને માટે કોઈ લગ્ન સાથે ચાલુ રાખવા ઈચ્છો છો.

તેથી લગ્ન પહેલાં, જે કન્યા કુટુંબ બધી વસ્તુઓ તેઓ ભેટ તરીકે આપી છે એક કાનૂની દસ્તાવેજો પર આગ્રહ રાખવો જ જોઈએ.

અમે પણ મજબૂત ભલામણ છે કે તમે તમારા વકીલો સંપર્ક કરશે, અને પાસે બંને કન્યા અને પતિ લગ્ન પહેલા એક ખંડ કે બધું છે કે જે રજીસ્ટર થયેલ છે સ્ત્રી અથવા તેણીના માતાપિતા આ લગ્ન ભંગ અથવા કરીશું પરત કરવામાં જ જોઈએ સાઇન ઇન જો સ્ત્રી નહીં લગ્ન અથવા મરી જાય છે. કલમ, તમે બધું છે કે જે તમને તરીકે નોંધણી જોવું પડશે સૂચવે છે જ જોઈએ. વિગતવાર પહેલાં મૂલ્ય હોશિયાર બધું અને રેકોર્ડ બીલ દરમ્યાન અને પછી લગ્ન, રાખો. ફેમિલી ખાતરી કરો કે તેમનો ‘પુત્રીઓ સહીઓ સ્વીકાર સાબિતી દરેક સમય ગણવામાં આવે છે, અને આ યાદીમાં તેના માતાપિતા સાથે રાખવામાં આવે છે બનાવવા જ જોઈએ.

જો પતિ કુટુંબ માટે રજીસ્ટર ભેટ અને તેના વળતર કલમ ​​ના કાનૂની દસ્તાવેજો માટે સંમત તૈયાર છે, પછી કન્યા કુટુંબ દરેક તેમના હેતુઓના શંકાસ્પદ હોઇ કારણ છે. કૃપા કરીને આ લગ્ન સાથે આગળ વધવું ન નથી.

 

 

5. આ કૌટુંબિક તે એક દહેજ ડિમાન્ડ બનાવે સામે એક પોલીસ રિપોર્ટ ફાઇલ:

જો સંભવિત પતિના પરિવાર દહેજ માંગ બનાવે છે, કે લગ્ન વ્યવસ્થા કરવા માટે સંમત થતા નથી. પણ પોલીસ સાથે તેમની સામે અહેવાલ ફાઈલ કરો, જેથી તેઓ બે વખત બીજા કુટુંબ પજવણી પહેલાં વિચારવું પડશે.
દહેજ માટે પૂછતી કાયદા હેઠળ સજા છે અને તમે કારાવાસની 2 વર્ષ અને / 10,000 નો દંડ વિચાર કરી શકે છે –

 

અમારી લડત એક ભાગ આ ભયંકર નીચ, અને ક્રુર પરંપરાનો અંત બનો! દહેજ ગુનેગારો સામે પગલાં ભારતમાં ઘણાયુવાન સ્ત્રીઓ જીવનનું રક્ષણ કરશે.

 

 

 

 

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How 9/11 Masculinized the US

In Susan Faludi’s Terror Dream, she notes that after the 9/11 attacks, which were, ironically, aimed against our country because it was liberal and Westernized, the men in our country went berserk and used the attack as an excuse to force women back into the protected victim role and to turn our male leaders into cartoonized chest banging cowboy heroes.

Stories of women’s heroism in and out of the attacks were ignored and strong women, especially those who made trouble for the government, like the Jersey Girls who questioned the official story of 9/11, were marginalized and branded as outcasts, troublemakers, witches.

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Here are some select comments from the Amazon.com listing of the book:

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First, let’s talk about the writing. Faludi is a brilliant writer. She could write about grass growing and make it a great read. There were times, reading her book, where I just had to stop and digest how well she puts things. A number of times, thoughts that she wrote with the beauty of Rumi came to mind.

Now, to the content of the book. Faludi submits a premise which she characterizes by a concept we learn in basic biology– “ontogeny recapitulates phylogeny.” And in her book, she calls the beginning narrative of the book Phylogeny.

The German zoologist, Ernst Haeckel, suggested, in this theory, the idea that ontogeny recapitulates phylogeny means that as over the short time span of nine months, a fetus, in the womb, goes through ontogenetic phases of development, it recapitulates the stages of development we see as we go up the evolutional scale– phylogenetically, that took billions of years to develop.

So we start, in biology, with single celled, then microscopic organisms, then fish, amphibia, with tails, mammals with tails, until we reach the anthropoid stage.

Faludi suggests that as a nation, we are now recapitulating our early evolutionary stages.

She says, “Haeckel’s hypothesis retains a metaphorical power in the realm of cultural history. The ways that we act, say, in response to a crisis can recapitulate in quick time the centuries-long evolution of our character as a society and of the mythologies we live by. September 11 presented just such a crisis…”

In her beginning section, called ONTOGENY, She does a superb job documenting how, after the 9/11 terrorist attack, there were no obvious heroes. No brave surviving rescuers, no brave fighters, no people who bravely dug through the rubble to discover survivors. It happened so fast, all the rescuers who came to the site either died or got there too late.

So the nation, the media– had to come up with heroes. And they chose pregnant women who lost their mates in the attack. To make this work, the media and right wing groups massively attacked the idea of strong women. Even the fashionistas made frilly the fad.

The fact was that women had played as much a role in rescuing and dying as men. But the strong women who were there, at the WTC site were marginalized and ignored, or even put down and attacked. Their strength didn’t fit the STORY that was being told, being etched into stone by the media.

Faludi gives example after example– in the media, in the fire department, in fashion– how this attack on women relentlessly took place– all to serve to make men feel bigger and stronger.
She writes, “What mattered was restoring the illusion of a mythic America where women needed men’s protection and men succeeded in providing it. What mattered was vanquishing the myth’s dark wrin, the humiliating “terror-dream” that 9/11 forced to the surface of the national consciousness. Beginning with the demotion of independent-minded female commentators, the elevation of “manly men” at ground zero, and the adoration of widowed, pregnant homemakers– that is, a cast of characters caught up in the September 11 trauma– the myth quickly rippled out to counsel- and chastise– the nation at large. Most particularly its women.

Faludi mentions how the “Jersey Girls” strong women who took on president Bush and the congress, demanding a 9/11 inquiry and demanding that Bush and Cheney testify, were attacked as shrill. She reminds us how Rudy Giuliani chided them that they had to “trust our government.” And the Wall Street Journal and other media complained of Jersey Girl fatigue. (I had a chance to meet and later correspond with the Jersey girls. They were heroic, in the true sense of the word. )

After solidly describing the “terror dream” and the myth that was created, or, perhaps, more accurately, resurrected, Faludi takes us back, in her Phylogeny section of the book, to show how early on, strong pioneer women were marginalized, how the books and stories about brave women, the statues were re-told and re-“visioned.”

Because, back in the early days of the settling of America, when pioneers lived in log cabins, they were attacked by the terrorists of the time– the American Indians, who would raid a house, burn it, kill the men and kidnap the women. Some women bravely fought back– successfully. Others adapted, effectively and happily. But those events created stories of weak, ineffective men. That couldn’t be.

So writers actually changed the stories, making the women weak and resurrecting the men who had run away, making them the strong heroes. Back in the 17th, 18th and 19th centuries, American men re-wrote history to create stories of weak, helpless women.

Putting the Salem witch trials into context, she shows that the women who were accused were independent, strong women, often widows who were not dependent upon men. Strong women were treated as insane, evil, possessed…, wrong.

I’ve been writing in my op-eds, for the past four years, since before the war started, that the right wing in America is engaged in a war against the feminine– not just women, but also the feminine archetype. Jean Shinoda Bolen has written extensively about the need for women and feminine energies to make a difference (in her super book MESSAGE FROM MOTHER; Gather the Women and Save the World) Faludi brilliantly describes just how the weak, pathetic “Stupid White Men” culture that Michael Moore described in his book, of that name, how the media and the right systematically orchestrated this attack on women as strong and heroic.

She says, near the end of the book, “When an attack on home soil causes cultural paroxysms that have nothing to do with the attack, when we respond to real threats to our nation by distracting ourselves with imagined threats to femininity and family life, when we invest our leaders with a cartoon masculinity and require of them bluster in lieu of a capacity for rational calculation, and when we blame our frailty on “fifth column” feminists– in short, when we base our security on a mythical male strength that can only measure itself against a mythical female weakness– we should know that we are exhibiting the symptoms of a lethal, albeit curable, cultural affliction. Our reflexive reaction to 9/11– fantastical, weirdly disconnected from the very real emergency at hand– exposed a counterfeit belief system. It reprised a bogus security drill that divided men from women and mobilized them to the defense of a myth instead of the defense of a country.”

Damn, she nails it. When I had a chance to meet John Kerry, I cryptically said to him, “don’t let Bush be Viagra.” I’ve said for years that Bush, his war, his cowboy idiocy, have all been props the boys in this myth, this terror dream have been projecting upon, so they could salvage their masculinity. Faludi dissects the apparition that infected America’s soul. Having cast light upon it, there is no doubt it will no longer have the power it has previously enjoyed.

She writes, “To not understand the mythic underpinnings of our response to 9/11 is, in a fundamental way, to not understand ourselves, to be so unknowing about the way we inhabit our cultural roles that we are stunned, insensible, when confronted by a moment that requires our full awareness. To fail to comprehend the historical provenance of our reaction, the phylogeny behind our ontogeny, is to find ourselves thwarted in our ability to express what we have undergone…”

The book is a brilliant exploration of aspects of American culture we don’t ordinarily think of. If you like Zinn’s People’s History of the United States, or if you are willing to see America with new eyes, this book could be for you.”

“First things first, I commend Faludi, as always, for her writing style. Faludi’s journalism background has made her books very readable and her latest is no exception. Those who fear a long-winded book full of academic jargon need not be afraid. This is vintage Faludi.

Second, a previous reviewer has dismissed the argument of this book that it’s just human nature the way people respond to such crises. Faludi goes to show us the opposite: human nature includes a survival instinct within us all, male or female but too often, other forces and the need to create heroes brings up a divide between men and women, casting the former as heroes and the latter as the victimized in need of saving. Perhaps this isn’t a new argument, but Faludi brings it new life by comparing the post-9/11 climate to earlier periods in the history of the United States. I had heard of many of the male archetypes referred to here, the Daniel Boones, the Natty Bumppos but I have never read many captivity narratives and to me, this was new ground.

I could have used a bit more in the beginning when Faludi discusses Susan Sontag and Barbara Kingsolver. What those writers said after 9/11 is never quoted in full; I admit feeling a little angry at their comments in the immediate aftermath of 9/11, not because I was bloodthirsty but because they seemed the words of apologists and ill-timed. Then again, that was my emotional response to a day that still haunts me and I’ll never be able to think rationally about it, but it would also cause me to miss Faludi’s point: it’s not so much what they said as the reaction to the women who spoke out as opposed to male commentators who said similar things yet were ignored by the press.

I recommend this book, whether you agree with it or not. As interesting as the first section of the book is, it’s the second that held my interest best. This book will undoubtedly anger some, but it’s worth reading and discussing, adding to an increasing lists of polemics about the current state of the union.”

“The Terror Dream: Fear and Fantasy in Post-9/11 America, by Susan Faludi, is unsettling.

Let me start with her ending:

“When an attack on home soil causes cultural paroxysms that have nothing to do with the attack, when we respond to real threats to our nation by distrusting ourselves with imagined threats to femininity and family life, when we invest our leaders with a cartoon masculinity and require of them bluster in lieu of a capacity for rational calculation, and when we blame our frailty in ‘fifth column’ feminists – in short, when we base our security on a mythical male strength that can only increase itself against a mythical female weakness – we should know that we are exhibiting the symptoms of a lethal, albeit curable, cultural affliction” (p. 295).

What? And Susan Faludi can make a case for this? As it turns out, however complex this is, Faludi makes a very strong case. There is a smell somewhere in the house, and Faludi attempts to track it down.

Here is the book, in outline form.

1. There was an event we call 9/11.

2. Society at all levels responded to this event.

3. In an extraordinary reversal of the “Rosie the Riveter” phenomenon that redefined the potential for women to hold up this nation, at all levels of society and in all quarters, the post 9/11 phenomena of “manly men” and “perfect virgins” is being forced upon us in entertainment, politics, media coverage, the blogiverse, and unfortunately, journalism.

4. This will have further impacts on society.

Faludi, with the writing and analysis skills I appreciated in her book, Backlash, tackles this topic head-on. My first reaction? Guilt. I was oblivious to the broader issues here. Yet now, I wonder how I could have missed it.

The late Jerry Falwell’s rant against “pagans, abortionists, and feminists” for lifting God’s “veil of protection” from the US apparently had a much wider and receptive audience than I would have guessed.

Here’s what Faludi says:

“In some murky fashion, women’s independence had become implicated in our nation’s failure to protect itself” (p. 21).

The sedition? Women’s liberation “feminized” men. And feminists have emasculated our military’s ability to defend our nation.

I knew it was my fault.

Women writers and speakers seeking to find meaning and lessons in the 9/11 attacks were raked over the coals. Women-authored opinion pieces practically disappeared from view. Author Barbara Kingsolver, crucified in the national press for a quote she never even said, lamented “The response was not the response you would expect toward a child. It was more like we were witches” (p. 32).

And you know how we treat witches.

There was the return of the “supermen” (aka Rumsfeld and Cheney). The women on Flight 93 were forgotten. Tributes to women firefighters were rare. Male victims in the Twin Towers were overshadowed by the wives of these victims [I certainly believe there were many, many victims].

“If women were ineligible for hero status, for what would they be celebrated” (p. 80)? Faludi argues that the role of women in the post-9/11 world was as “perfect virgins of grief.”

The second half of the book is Faludi’s analysis of how American society got to this point. She discusses the historical factors “predisposing” society to a world as defined by the Rush Limbaugh types.

Wait till Limbaugh gets a summary of this book.

The most surprising thing, for me, was that I needed Faludi to sharpen my eyesight. There were things going on around me that perhaps I wasn’t seeing. She gives me glasses that I can use to see for myself whether a post 9/11 world is as “culture bending” as she claims.

What was missing from this book is any kind of response from those who would disagree with her premise.

So, Susan Faludi, thank you for opening my eyes. You will make many people angry. You will make some contemplative. And you will make others active.”

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I suggest we take a good look at the true underlying forces at work both when our country is under attack AND when it’s not, so we can perhaps move past this silly culture in which women are supposed to be ignored victims and men the heroes.

We should take this day to remember the FEMALE heroes and commentators, the mothers who fight for the truth about the attacks and about our government’s handling of the attacks and of foreign problems, and of course, the innocent women and children who are killed every day in the Middle East, both by our troops and by their own bloodthirsty men.  For all we talk about Osama and how he had his wives, there are hundreds of women being beaten every day by their husbands here in the west.

For 9/11 and the resulting era did not constitute any “new” kind of war, but the same old war we’ve all been forced to endure: men’s war against women.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Some controversial thoughts on male homosexuality

Some thoughts on the issue, in no particular order.

 

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I’m not quite sure how it happened, the current opposition to gays and homosexuality that many men feel.  Why do they hate gays so much?  What caused this all?  When?  There are a few theories I have about why men have hated gays, supported gays, hated lesbians, and why they sometimes hate one more than another:
1. They seemed to hate lesbians more than gays a few hundred years ago, during the early witch hunt eras, like when the prospect of a woman resisting marriage to a man was very dangerous to them, and there was no sexual liberation that allowed them to fuck and chuck any woman.
2. They seemed to somewhat ignore or try to block out the knowledge of gays or lesbians during the Victorian Era, since sex in general was immoral, and so was sexual deviance.  Gays were hated when discussed, but lesbians were invisible since women didn’t have sexual desires, they said.  Perhaps this was…better?…for the lesbians?  I don’t know.
3. Today being gay is severely punished, while being lesbian is called evil but is a little more ignored, or just considered butch, or lesbians get eyerolls or such.  This isn’t because these men hate women less, it’s because they are more focused on the horrifying prospect that men are being dominated by other men, and that they are being turned into women.  So, it is actually because they hate women so much they hate gays.   They still hate Lesbians, it’s just that the topic doesn’t always come up as much.

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I’ve noticed that a lot of the people opposed to homosexuality are women, especially religious women.  I wondered why this was, since women are oppressed as well as gays and since the oppression was along similar lines- sex and gender.  Then I started to feel like it might have something to do with this whole nervousness about sex and the body, especially the male body (since anti-homosexuality campaigns usually refer to male homosexuals).  Maybe women were offended by male bodies and male sexuality, so male homosexuality made them afraid.  Therefore they became conservative on the matter.

 

Then I figured that some instances of homosexuality on the part of men might be fueled by female hatred.  Homosexuals in the Victorian Era, like Oscar Wilde, often disliked women, eve though the popular stereotype is of homosexuals being effeminate.  A key reason may have been because they attracted to their own sex precisely because they disliked the other, much like the rugged cowboy, sick and tired of silly women, bonded in a sexual way with his own rugged brothers.

For example, the 2005 film Brokeback Mountain documents the fictional life of two cowboys who struggle with their homosexual attraction to each other, and the men seem to somewhat see the wives and children as a bit of a burden, annoying and frustrating their desires. These two men long to get away from their wives and kids and go out in the mountains and have an all-male homosexual relationship.

 

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When the masculinity supporting homosexuals use phrases like “you’re homophobic”, they really mean to mock people’s fear- their fear of sex and heterosexuals’ fear of differing sexualities.  It’s just like what men do to women who are afraid to have sex- they like to mock the “effeminate” fear of sex.

For these types of homosexual men, being against homophobia is not about tolerance and justice; it’s about the unacceptability of having a fear of sex, the unacceptability of having a fear of maleness and the male body, or fear of frightening and unknown sexual behavior.  It’s also about, not tolerance for justice’s sake, but about tolerance in the sense that they want to be able to perform any kinds of sexual activities they want and with any kind of partner.

Objectively, there’s nothing wrong with homosexuality, either male or female.  But to a woman who is frightened enough already about the whole topic of sex, frightened because of the behavior of men…do you think she’s going to react with logic and acceptance and tolerance, and without any fear when you introduce a whole foreign concept of sexuality and behavior to her, especially a totally male-centric one as male homosexuality?

Many women are opposed to both homosexuality and to lesbianism in theory, but are able to harbor and accept attractions to other women.  This may be because they see homosexuality and other forms of sexuality which include one or more male partners to be threatening.  It may also be because since the word “homosexuality” implies an attraction based upon physical body parts- i.e., it is an attraction towards a person’s physical, sexual body parts- and women see it as unemotional and are put off by the purely physical aspect of it.  They are put off by the idea that one’s sexual attractions should be determined by the body parts of the partner.  That’s what the average man is attracted by, they think.  Someone’s body parts.

Also, because they live in a male-run society, women define “sex” solely as a physical thing…but, being women (who have to bear the painful role in sexual activity) they think they don’t like sex.  Since any woman-woman relationships are going to include more love, and have less sex (or at least tie sex in with romantic love), they fail to recognize the relationship as a sexual one, and hence, a homosexual one, and therefore do not consider themselves lesbians.  After all, they figure, they can’t be homosexual if they aren’t having sex.

To sum it up, many women consider the subject of homosexuality frightening because it seems sexually exotic (and therefore dangerous), and because they believe that male homosexuality is too full of masculinity (two men) to be non-threatening.

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I’m wondering if this whole idea that most gays are effeminate is not an attempt to trick women into supporting the typical homosexual- the uber male who loves other males because they are male.  “It’s okay, we’re all into shopping and clothes and scented candles and puppies and purple!”  But are most homosexual not like that?  Do the masculine homosexuals push around the feminine ones? It seems so.

 

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Here’s what a lot of anti-gay women, or women who think they’re anti-gay, are thinking about the gay rights movement:

you guys have been allowed to fuck each other for god knows how long, in every society, even if it’s just in dark corners or secret clubs.  We have been begging to have the kind of sex we want without getting murdered as witches or mutilated by doctors to cure our lesbianism.  Not to mention the other abuses we suffer from being forced to accept your heterosexuality into our lives.  And now you have the nerve to come out and complain that you aren’t exactly being treated like how human beings are supposed to be treated, that you aren’t getting your assed pleasured as many times as you want, that your behavior is subject to a few penalties which you have to power to at least protest properly, while we don’t?

The gay issue is only an issue because it mainly involves men (lesbians are invisible to them) and because it involves regulations against sexual behavior.  If only lesbians existed in the universe, you can bet gay rights would never have become an issue at all.

 

 

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The gay marriage and gay sex question, for men, is about getting to do whatever they want; for women, it’s about being fair to others.  So you can see who has the better handle on what social justice means.

 

I was reading an article on the Radical Hub site and they were talking about male homosexuality and how taboo it is, and one commenter was like, “Where is male homosexuality taboo?  Men’s institutions are cemented by it, the priesthood, the public school, the army and navy, anywhere men gather in groups without women being present.  The taboo is on admitting it to women, and that, depending on the degree of patriarchy present in any given society, can be punishable by death.  Because it is breaking the code of the boys club, which corrals women’s bodies by controlling their minds.  Women must religiously follow heterosexual edicts, men are exempt.”

 

Ask any good history student, and they’ll tell you that men have been free to fuck each other all throughout history, with a few bans occurring on and off, often from women or from “effeminate” areas in the Church and from other moral-peddlers in society.

In Ancient Greece they were allowed- no, encouraged– to do it.

Ancient Rome, I believe, frowned on it a bit more but didn’t do much about it.

Alexander the Great was gay.

The Spartans were often gay.

Roman emperors had perverse sex with little boys.  (Google “Tiberius and his minnows”)

Sodom and Gomorrah in the ancient Middle East.

Jewish mohels who suck baby boys’ newly circumcised penises.

The Turkish bath sort of places and nude swim areas the classical era men attended to escape women.

The earliest Popes, who compared boys’ naked bottoms to the texture of a peach, and later Popes who instituted orgies in their halls.

Asian sexual practices in India and China and Japan with two young males or one adult male and one younger one.

Various European kings and princes and politicians, sometimes (or often) soldiers.

Masons and other “secret societies”- yeah, we know your secret!- during the American Revolution and the European Enlightenment and other eras.

Gay princes and composers and oddball writers in the 19th Century, like Oscar Wilde.

Cowboys in the old American West, and of course, Brokeback Mountain.

Actors, singers, and other artists who dabble in gay orgies or fuckfests both on and off the screen/stage/paper.

Modern monarchs like Prince Charles, who are caught engaging in homosexual activity at various times, a counterpart to their 19th Century and older European counterparts.

Locker rooms, restrooms, bathroom troughs, and steam rooms, even public street urinals in modern Europe in which men often show off to each other.

Muslim training schools and madrassas where men learn how to praise Allah and bone little boys.

 

What these men oppose when they’re opposing restrictions against homosexuality is not the unfairness of it all, or the pain and rejection that many homosexual men (mostly the effeminate variety) suffer at the hands of patriarchal men. They oppose, instead, not being able to do whatever they want to do, especially sexually.  They oppose not being allowed to have sex with other men, and hypocritically, they cry out against the “tyranny” of the Church and Victorian Era and other establishments- which they instituted themselves!- and blame the rare good aspects of the Church and religion and morality and all that, for acting “feminine” and not allowing them to have sex or revel in their masculinity. (The good aspects being “don’t hurt the innocent”, “everything in moderation”, “don’t be sexually irresponsible”, “look out for the little guy”, etc).

 

The fact that they aren’t able to open a simple history book and look at how unrestricted male homosexual sex has been in the past attests to their refusal to be objective and logical, and not to mention their uneducated demeanor whenever they approach any and all issues.   It also proves the casualness with which they blame people who are totally innocent in regards to restricting their disgusting behavior (nagging women, disgusted churchgoers, whiny priests, etc).

 

You think women cared if they went off and fucked other men?  They were probably happy to have them out of their hands, like Marie Barone is happy to see Frank go to the lodge in Everybody Loves Raymond.  Thank God for the mother fucking lodge!

 

And lots of the authorities that opposed homosexuality, even if they had stereotypically feminine reasons for doing so, like “morality”, or “safety”, they were established by males, and it was males who banned the behavior.

 

This aspect of history, the aspect of men screaming about how they aren’t allowed to be homosexual, it reads much more like men trying to regulate other men’s behavior, or even their own behavior……and then getting angry at women who chime in on the wrong side.  If you support homosexual men, you’re a witch.  If you oppose it, you’re a bitch.  Or an old crazy broad.  If you think about it, the issue of males being allowed to be homosexual is almost exclusively an issue that concerns them.  Men regulating other men and punishing them if they step out of line.

 

The only time women are involved is when they are used as cannon fodder for the anti-homosexual side to fight the opposition, or vice versa.  And of course, for when one side wants to attack the others’ cannon fodder (women), because heaven knows they would rather attack a woman whom their opponent has brainwashed to oppose them than attack another man, even one with violently different opinions. So I guess on a certain level, men love each other so much that most of them are homosexuals.  Some are just repressed and that’s what makes the differences of political opinion.

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If you’re an effeminate man, and you love another man and sexually attract to him for proper reasons, then you’re a pussy.  If you’re a woman, then you’re a cunt.  You can’t win.  It sucks.  Welcome to history class.

(I am ¾ done with a bachelors in history so I can kinda say that).

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Are women’s rights in our society going to last?

“A backlash against women’s rights is nothing new in American history…It returns every time women begin to make some headway toward equality…” says Susan Faludi, on page 46 of Backlash.

She says people who view the feminist revolution as a straight line getting better and better over time, rather than a cycle that goes back and forth, up and down.

 

I’ve recently started to be haunted by a terrible thought…perhaps our current liberation in only a tiny peak sandwiched in the middle of a sea of oppression- one in the past, and perhaps one in the future.  Hearing about this, about how women’s liberation has been existent in the past and has come and gone, rather than progressed in a straight line, this really started to worry me: is our current liberation permanent…or is it just a tiny speck in a huge sea of darkness and oppression?

Is there really anything special about the present, compared to the rest of history? Are we really safe for good or are we going to cycle around again…into another Dark Ages?

On the next page she says these backlashes we are seeing against women’s rights are a normal historical occurrence, like the financial penalties ancient Rome gave to unmarried or childless mothers, or the charges of heresy against early women disciples of Christ, or the witch killing in the medieval era.

She guesses that maybe since American culture isn’t founded on class distinctions, maybe men clung to the idea of male supremacy to elevate themselves socially.  Who knows? Sounds like a good theory to me.  She says on page 48 that free women in America usually just used their freedom to choose to go back into dependence again, and that nearly a good half of all the anti-feminist books were written by women.

 

Recently, the driving force behind the brainwashing of women to make them willfully choose to be subservient to men has been popular culture peddled by the mass media, Faludi says.  The Victorian Era- the middle to late 19th Century- was when this all kind of started.

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I’m getting especially worried about the very current backlash against women’s rights, from Todd Akin, Paul Ryan, Mitt Romney, Rush Limp-baugh, and others.  Will they send us back to a new Dark Ages?  Don’t say “but that was a million years ago!  We are civilized now!” because if you look at history, lots of times the most uncivilized periods were preceded by periods that were highly civilized and tolerant.

I sure hope this current 20th-21st Century trend of women’s liberation isn’t just a speck among misogyny of the past…and misogyny of the future.  I hope that this time, for good, we can be liberated.

 

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